so, we’ve been known each other 2 years, he loved me since we met, we’ve made a lot of plans about future, he always been there for me and provided huge support at my hardest time, so I gave a try to relationship with him. (we’re together for 3 month)
he has low confidence in himself, no mother, with father they argue a lot, he can be childish very often (for example, he tells me that I don’t love him, so now I must say that I love him. he seeks attention this way and he’s the anxious type, who needs a lot of confirmation about love) and I think he might have depression
first month everything was alright, and the next two are complete shit. we started argue a lot; we had an agreement to not say sorry, ‘cus we said it more, than we should, and he often breaks it; tells me he’s not good enough for me and I deserve better; that his work and study takes too much energy, he’s not sleeping well, so we’re not talking as much as usual. we used to call each other every watch, watch or play something together, and now everything gone. we can’t find games, that we both will like and I’m not into watching right now.
I waited for him every day, trying to talk, to spend time together, ‘cus it’s important to me, especially on a long distance, but he only said “i’m busy” “not today” “I’d love to, but I want to sleep”, and I thought it’s okay, he’s just tired.
But then I found that he played with his friend, while I was waiting for him (I don’t really have friends, so I’ve been very lonely, AND HE KNEW). I stopped talking to our friend, because he was jealous, and now, he tells me to spend time with him, so I won’t be so lonely? thank, we don’t talk anymore, oh, BECAUSE YOU ASKED. And know, he just… forgot about me.
I tried to talk to him, asked him “why did you do that why you chose your friend over me?” And he just said “well, you needed support and I didn’t have energy for this, and I thought that if I came, I would only made situation worse” I told him that I don’t feel loved, that I want his attention more, and he replied ” Babe , you know, I have hard times, I can’t express my love anymore, I get tired a lot and I don’t have energy for everything” honestly, I think he’s lying and still choosing his friend over me.
I can’t believe, that this boy chased me for 2 years, creates plans about future, told me how much he loves me that I’m the best thing in his world… And then he just chooses his friend over me and stopes spending time with me.
TL;DR: my bf chosed to play with his friend, while I waited for him and begged to spend time with me, because I feel bad and lonely, and he told me that he just doesn’t have energy for anything, including support and spending time with me (I bet he still plays with that friend). now I don’t feel loved and he doesn’t know what to do.
Question: is it possible and is it worth trying to make this relationship last longer? I wanted it to be long-term, but I think about breakup everyday. I tried to talk things out, but he replied only “i don’t know what to do” “i can’t do anything”. I tried my best, and it didn’t work.