So for context me and my bf are long distance currently as he is traveling overseas for work. He is coming back at the end of this month. We haven’t been together that long(a bit over a month). So he has been helping me with groceries within at time because I sadly don’t make enough to pay bills and buy food. I was previously stealing food to eat. He offered to help me out and of course I took this help being very appreciative of it so I wouldn’t have to keep stealing it. I tend to complain a lot(its a work in progress for me) and it tends to be about stuff that I require money for. So I can completely understand where he would think I was using him to get money, I tried to clear it up telling him I appreciate the help he is currently giving me and my intention in those complaints weren’t to get more money out of him, It was just venting because tbh I don’t have many people to talk to about this stuff. Of course I did a dumb dumb thing and asked what he would’ve done if I said yes and he said he would leave me(which is very fair btw). I was just wanting some people’s opinions because I just feel like I’m putting myself on eggshells
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Stop taking his money and find other means to improve your situation would be the obvious answer? You can’t be using him for money if you don’t take any from him.
First of all, as an adult, it’s important to be able to manage your own bills. That way, any gifts he gives you aren’t just about covering basic needs, but can be thoughtful gestures instead. It also shows that you’re not in the relationship for financial reasons, which can give him more confidence and peace of mind. I understand you are in a bad place right now, but unfortunately I can understand his concern as well. If all you ever talk is your money issues he might be concerned.