We’ve been together for 2 years, Recently he had been acting more uninterested in me, angry – lashing out. We have tried to fix this with communication but it’s been getting worse. During sex he has been getting soft mid way through and ofc we stop. Yesterday was definitely better, we were like back to who we were, sex improved and everything felt content but then again just today we were having sex and he went soft mid way again but this time said under his breath “can you stop talking” and I was just trying to flirt so I was confused and he said “the way you sound, I don’t like the way you talk” he doesn’t like how my voice sounds and has stated it’s a turn off. I’ve been feeling very unattractive lately as I’m chronically ill and this has made me feel 100x worse. I don’t know what to do, how to feel or if I am justified to even feel emotional about this. We hit a slump in our relationship and there’s this hyper awareness of being sick and looking sick and now sounding however I sound. I can’t change these things and I feel like it won’t get better.
tl;dr: my boyfriend told me the sound of my voice turns him off during sex.
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you should have a serious talk with him. if nothing changes afterwards, break up. you deserve someone who treats you well, not some asshole.
playing devils advocate here, did he specifically say your VOICE was a turn off or was what you were SAYING was turning him off?
How can he be so blatantly disrespectful, he doesnt respect you, leave him
>We’ve been together for 2 years, Recently he had been acting more uninterested in me, angry – lashing out. We have tried to fix this with communication but it’s been getting worse.
I’m sorry, your relationship is over. When things like the way someone’s SO sounds or talks or looks starts to bother someone, it’s a manifestation of the way that person actually feels (though possibly doesn’t want to admit yet).