My(m25) gf(f22) is going to be painted top less in an art shown next month, and I need help being okay with her being posted online.
I’m not upset in anyway, i know its art, as well as her body so i have no intention of trying to stop her. I also don’t mind people seeing her like that, especially at an art gallery after being painted. However the thought that makes me uncomfortable is that the event and artist will be posting pictures/ videos of her online for everyone to see, which makes me uneasy.
I understand that her breasts, especially to her are hardly sexual or not world ending to be posted in that context. However her face, name, and profile link being included on topless pictures of her still make me very uncomfortable.
Am I being too dramatic for being uneasy about this? I’d love any help, especially from women to help me just come to terms with this more easily, as i want her to do something that fun to her without being uncomfortable with her being posted online.
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How comfortable or uncomfortable you are with it is your business, you just can’t stop her from doing it. Personally, I wouldn’t be comfortable with my SO doing this and would voice that I wouldn’t want to continue the relationship afterwards. If you aren’t willing to leave over it, all you can do is process it on your own.
>which makes me uneasy.
make me very uncomfortable.
what is there to be uneasy/uncomfortable about? how, exactly, does her art being posted affect you, in any actual meaningful way? please be specific.
>Am I being too dramatic for being uneasy about this?
yes.
there’s no danger or anything to you, so there’s nothing to be worried about.
Have her wear a mask, not like n95.
They are just breasts. Americans over sexually breasts. This is no big deal
Oof, that’s rough brother 💀
Sorry if this isn’t the answer you’re looking for but it’d be beyond my boundaries and i personally would NOT let it happen. I’m the type to walk in public with my girl and ask myself how many of these random men have seen my girlfriend’s tits. Sorry but not sorry baby you ain’t getting your titties painted for attention.
im actually taking a paint class right now and we’re very discouraged to have our phones out while the modles activley posing, out of respect because thats their time working, and itd be rude. are they taking pictures of the painting of her or of her actually posing aswell? im sure if you tell her, she could have whoever is teaching the class to say not to take photos while she posing.
Idk, maybe really accept the idea that you have no ownership over her body and that her body being on display has nothing to do with you?
You need to chill. You’re the only one who gets to motor boat. Just remember that when everyone’s admiring them 😉
Remember brother, she is never truly yours, its just your turn
I’m curious. Have you spoken to her about how you feel? Not in a “I don’t want you to do it” way but a “this is how I feel but I support you 100% but I might need some support through it” way?
you have the right to be uncomfortable. what you can’t do is tell her what to do. if she’s doing it once she’ll likely do it again. if you’re not that open minded find someone who’s lifestyle fits yours.
My Mrs did a lot of art when younger, and she just jumped in with any show should be to present the art, you shouldn’t take photos as it defeats the object of the art, and you don’t use their likeness as you need to protect their privacy.
Im a guy and did the modelling and had my photos taken without my face in it,
I would strongly suggest against anything that can identify her. Especially after I did my thesis at university.
Future employers are searching people online before they get a job, and if they find anything that goes against their values or their image they won’t hire you.
If you have semi nude photos or anything that can identify yiu, whilst you might be proud you did something brave and exciting, its not seen as professional and will be used against you.
Privacy should be maintained, so if photos are to be taken, establish what is acceptable and unacceptable (no face pictures at all), get everything written down, agreed and signed also, before anything happens. You might think its nothing now, it can fuck a future.