My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. I’ve been thinking about proposing soon. Things are good until this week.
Ok Monday my ex(Lindsay) randomly sent me a message saying she missed me. I replied and said it was nice to hear from her but that I won’t be talking with her.
She then started to send some inappropriate pics of herself. I messaged that I would be blocking her and to not contact me again.
This all happened Monday night and my gf was already asleep. I worked early and didn’t get a chance to tell her what happened.
Around lunchtime on Tuesday my girlfriend calls me screaming that I’m cheating on her with Lindsay. Apparently Lindsay contacted her and told her that we’ve been cheating online with each other. She had screenshots of her sending pics through dm on insta(which I never use but have an old account). Obviously there were no replies from me, but Lindsay claims it was meant to be that way so I could deny. She called my gf crying and saying she was sorry which is all an act.
When I got home I showed me gf everything. Showed her the texts. Went through all my social medias and it wasn’t enough. She still believes that there may be something going on. She left to stay with a friend and told me she needs time to think. I freaked out and said if she doesn’t believe me to not come back.
What can I do here? I feel like I’m going crazy.
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Well at least you know she doesn’t trust you much and is easily swayed by people. In the future when something like that happens you really should have let her know as soon as possible.
I’d put a long hold on the plans to get engaged to her for now.
Wow sorry man š Sounds like everyone needs to take a breather for a minute. Might wanna give her some time and then let her know you didnāt mean to tell her not to come back and you were just speaking out of emotion. Your ex sounds like a monster.
Let her do her thinking. You’ve done what you can for now.
why did you say it was nice to hear that your ex gf misses you?
Your ex sounds crazy; and your gf doesn’t seem to trust you. Block your ex as you planned. And let your gf have a cooling-off period; she needs to work through her trust issues.
I do not want to sound like someone who is overreacting, but its not a good sign for your future that she reacted the way she did. If my fiance was sent texts from my ex she would either laugh at how absurdly obvious it is or she would calmly contact me to ask what’s up.
Once you reply back you lost,
Call the police on that stalker. Sheās trying to treat you apart.Ā
You shoulda blocked her asap. Kinda left the door openā¦.
Unfortunately for you both, splitting up is best. Sheāll never believe you and even if she says she does, sheāll never fully trust you again. Move on, guy, and learn your lesson. Exes never fully go away and their wrath is unparalleled in human kind. āNice to hear from youā was a stupid thing to say.
She believes a random-to-her over youā¦ speaks to either her or you. Which one is it?
Hopefully a night apart will help.. thatās a lot to process. I hope you guys can talk it out this weekend! You were just upset when you said not to come back. Try to stay positive š
If everything is as you say, your ex may have committed several crimes here. You should file a police report first thing tomorrow and work on getting a no contact order in place. It may even be worth discussing this with a lawyer.
As for your ex, I would see if sheās open to couples therapy where you can both talk about this in a structured, safe environment with somebody to mediate so things stay reasonable.
Good luck OP