My partner and I had unprotected sex and 2 days ago we got a positive pregnancy test. We have discussed before how we weren’t ready but she was very upset with how I reacted. Here’s how I reacted: when she told me and we got in the car, I immediately started talking about abortion options. I reassured her that we would get through this together. She did not like my reaction as she stated she didn’t really get time to process the whole being pregnant thing, and especially mad that the abortion was the thing I jumped to instead of being happy. I actually was happy and we both want kids in our lives, but I thought we were on the same page I’m regards to this, and that’s why I jumped to that topic. I thought that we agreed that we weren’t ready now in this moment. She didn’t like my reaction and this is a first for both of us. Her background is also Christian and she doesn’t like this decision but we have decided to go through with it. We are both feeling very sad at the moment. She’s expressed her feelings changed for me and that she feels numb right now. She got drunk and expressed so much negative emotions towards me. I don’t necessarily blame her. I can’t help but feel like the biggest asshole. I’ve never felt like this. I feel like I’ve ruined her life. I feel like I’ve shifted her perspective on life. She thinks I don’t want to take her serious because of this. I expressed to her that I do but I don’t think we are ready for kids right now. We’re feeling really depressed and she said after the pill procedure she wants nothing to do with me.
I’m not sure what to do with this post. I really want to be here for her but I don’t know what to say or do other than be here and express to her how I feel. She doesn’t like talking much about things and repeating topics.
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