So we’ve been together for 4 years. We’ve had our share of issues but mostly resolved them pretty quickly by having sincere conversations. It should be noted that she is very attractive by conventional standards and also into the whole fitness stuff. I mean calorie counting, macros, smart watches, sleep, knowing when supersets are useful and when not. Also, doing squats and bulgarian split squats on a regular basis has given her an impressive lower body (that will be important later in my story). As for me, I can do a couple pull-ups here and there but am not as obsessed with fitness as she is. She works freelance as a designer.
Recently I had to quit my low-paying job as the money I made couldn’t keep up with her increasing demands. She likes eating out at fancy places at least twice a week and needed a new Mac and iPhone to better do her job. I kinda liked my previous job but thought quitting it and looking for something more lucrative was for the best.
Anyway, I has this online interview for a remote job sheduled for 11 AM which I told her about the day before. I settled in the kitched, powered up my laptop and camera, made sure our cats were locked in other rooms, closed all windows to block any noise and the interview started, conducted by the HR person (woman) and head of the department I’d applied to (guy). The HR girl asked about my experience, skills, salary experctations, the usual stuff. However, right when the supervisor guy and I were duscussing some specific stuff, GF enters the kitched wearing very tight panties and a t-shirt, which can all be seen in the background as the camera was facing the kitchen counter. After a few involuntary chuckles from them, I say hello to her and whispered that I was in the middle of the job interview here, the one she wanted me to take in the first place. She smiled, said hi to the them, took milk and frozen fruit out of the fridge, proceeded to put them in a blender, poured milk and turned the blender on. It goes without saying it was hard to hear anyting from my side or theirs due to the noise from the blender. As she continued to make the smoothie for 30 seconds or so, I just sat there awkwardly while my gf was standing there nonchalantly waiting for the smoothie to be ready. She then poured it into a glass and left the kitchen. The supervisor dude kinda laughed and asked if it was always that noisy in my apartment and whether I would be able to work from home given “there’s definitely things to be distracted by”. The HR lady seemed a bit uncomfortable. I told them it was okay and we said goodbye to each other.
When I entered the living room, gf was laying on the sofa seeping the smothie and browsing instagram. I told her that it wasn’t a nice thing to interrupt my job interview like that, to which she replied she really needed to have that smoothie for breakfast in order to go to the gym in an hour. She said if I was a good professional, they’d hire me anyway and if not, I better ask myself why it is so. She then put on her headphones and told me not to disturb her. Is there a polite way to explain to her that my boundaries are to be respected?
tl;dr: my fitness-obsessed gf probably ruined my online job interview by appearing in the background wearing underwear and making a smoothie, how do I navigate from there?
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This would honestly be a dealbreaker for me; what she did was unbelievably selfish.
From what you’re telling here she seems to be very disrespectful to you and disregards your feelings. Has this always been the case or is this happening more recently due to her life changes? It feels like she’s checking out of the relationship.
Why do you think this:
>She said if I was a good professional, they’d hire me anyway and if not, I better ask myself why it is so. She then put on her headphones and told me not to disturb her
requires a polite response?
That doesn’t warrant a polite explanation. That warrants a clear, direct “That is amazingly cruel thing to say. I’m seriously questioning if I can continue in a relationship with someone who seems to lack basic consideration or even a conscience.”
This isn’t about the smoothie. This is about having a partner who showed you open contempt, and kicked you when you were down.
I know it’s a Reddit thing, but dump this person. Line up whatever you need, and get away from this asshole. This was not a case of casual, inconsideate behaviour, or a case of an honest mistake. They are simply, openly awful to you. This is so awful, it makes me suspect she might be consciously sabotaging you.
No one who claims to like you, let alone love you, should ever speak to you that way.
You break up with her. She doesn’t love you. It seems like she honestly doesn’t like you at all. She completely sabotaged your interview and embarrassed everyone. Jeez dude, get out of there already.
That’s really rude and not the sort of thing adults normally need explaining to them
From the interviewers perspective, they’ve just seen how you deal with unexpected problems in real time. I wouldn’t be impressed
You dump her for being incredibly selfish!
Yeah you absolutely break up with this woman. Best case scenario, she is shockingly immature.
No, there’s no way to make a selfish person stop being selfish.
She deliberately sabotaged you. There’s no explaining around that.
I didn’t think her «impressive lower body» would be relevant to the situation, but turns out, it is. You are willing to sacrifice everything good in your life (a good job that you actually like, your self respect and the chance of a relationship with someone who actually cares about you) for a nice ass.
What are you getting out of this relationship? Why are you with someone who only sees you as an ATM? Who slightly diggs at you when you ask them to be more considerate? Who is humiliating themselves and you by showing their ass on your zoom meetings?
bro she’s a narcissist
This lady is dumb. Do you want to be with someone hot and dumb? You might be perfect for each other, because it’s really dumb to quit a job without another one lined up.
Stop wasting your time on someone like her. She’s selfish, inconsiderate, and will continue the raise the bar of what she expects you to provide her all without meeting you in the middle.
This is the stupidest fetish post I’ve ever read.
Is this fetish content?
This girl is no good for you. She probably ruined your chances at this place. But why didn’t you take your laptop elsewhere at least rather than try to carry on??