My husband and I have been married for 15 years. Over that time I’ve got quite close to my Mil but it’s become a situation where we are so close I am now experiencing her bs, where I now realise why my husband keeps her at arms length.
The current bs is that I had an early morning meeting and didn’t FaceTime her on her birthday with my kids before school. I rang her later that day and had planned to FaceTime that afternoon after school pickup. When I rang she ranted at me for 20 minutes about how hurt she was that I was “too busy” to FaceTime and that family comes first.
But the issue is, I had asked to use their holiday house and she said in her rant that if I didn’t FaceTime her at least once a week with the kids then I can’t use it and that having access to the house will be “the incentive I need to call”.
I told my husband (who is feeling vindicated as he’s used to her behaviour) and he said he always FaceTimes with the kids so he’ll do it and for me to put her at arms length too.
I don’t need to use the house, I can afford to book one or even buy one, but we use it as they whinge it sits empty and they have always been against us buying one as we can use theirs.
Anyway I am just astounded at being ranted at and treated like a beach house beggar. Should I start to shut this relationship down?
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