My mom is kicking me out. My (F20) new lease starts from two weeks to today. I have no other family or friends in the states. I’m in college, airbnbs/hotels aren’t an option for me financially. My bf (M22) offered I stay over his house with him and his mom. I was iffy at first but how things are going at my mom’s it feels like this is my last resort. I will say she is definitely a helicopter parent. There was a time a few weeks ago I was going through something really difficult and suggested to my bf we go to the beach for the day, he thought it was a good idea too. We call his mom to let her know because we stayed in the city and he didn’t have his car. As we were heading out to get his car she was texting him basically saying she doesn’t want us to go to the beach. Which was odd because she was really supportive of the idea and was aware of what’s happening to me and my situation. There was another time where I used my bf’s amazon prime and gave him the money. His mom said that she doesn’t want me using her prime. I don’t know it’s small situations like this that make me question her feelings towards me. Situations like her low key excluding me from things, or her not wanting my bf to do certain things for me. Whenever I’m around her she asks like she loves me and treats me like a daughter. I don’t have the best relationship with my mom so i honestly was starting to look up to her. Today I told my bf I was getting kicked out and apparently he went and asked his mom again if i could stay there until my lease starts. She said no, it would make her uncomfortable. I understand this but then I kinda don’t. They come from a very wealthy background. Multiple living rooms/staircases you wouldn’t even know i’m there type of home. I offered to pay bills or just stay in a room etc. I understand it’s her house, it just hurt I guess because I honestly thought she liked me other than those little passive aggressive situations that happened. Knowing that she knows it’s either i stay with them or the streets and she doesn’t really care kinda hurts. I don’t know if kinda just wanted to rant/vent.
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It’s likely not you as a person at all.. it would be any female that has her sons attention.
From what you’ve written she absolutely reeks of jealousy – hopefully he isn’t enmeshed with her. If there’s signs of enmeshment and he isn’t going to take steps in recognizing it or dealing with it (therapy) girl RUN.
I truly hope you’re able to find somewhere warm and safe to stay until your lease!