I’ve just gone back to work a month ago after a 15 month mat leave. My LO will be starting daycare in mid September, but until then he’s at my mom’s Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays (across the street), and my MIL comes to watch him at my house on Wednesdays and Fridays. I mostly work from home, and this setup works well for now. Only thing is, recently, my MIL has not been handing my son over after I’m finished work. I typically come out of my office around 5, 5:15pm, and join them in whatever they’re doing. I start with the whole “thanks for coming, how was he today?” to try and signal that she’s good to go, but she doesn’t seem to get the hint. She lingers for at least another half an hour to 45min playing with him, while I awkwardly stand around following them. LO is getting his molars in and has been incredibly fussy, I also don’t think she stays on top of his food very well during the day, so he seems to be getting pretty hungry for dinner around that time. She seems to think his fussiness is because he senses that she’s leaving, so she picks him up and walks around the house rocking him saying “grandmas here”. I just want to enjoy some 1:1 time with my son before he has to go to sleep in like 2 hours, but she keeps literally taking him out of my arms. He’s fussy, sure, but let me soothe my son, dammit. Sighhhh. What would you guys do?
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Take him back. Walk in, pick him up and just go about your afternoon. Don’t let her take him out of your arms.