So I (22f) just graduated college and I’m studying for my LSAT for November. My best friend just had a baby and while we were on FaceTime she said she’s wishing pregnancy on me and I said girl I rebuke. My mom overheard and she gave me this long speech about why I shouldn’t get pregnant right now. She had me at 17 and I get her concerns but please trust me….I told her I wouldn’t bring a kid into this world while I still live at home we were joking (I’m also on the pill and use condoms). A week ago I slept over the guy im seeing house and my older sister jokingly said why do I need to sleepover and I said bc I want to I’m grown , you had sleepovers with your fiancé before yall moved in together. She’s lesbian and she joked that I can get pregnant and she can’t 😒…. Sometimes I feel that they don’t trust me.
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Even multiple forms of contraception can fail. The way things are going in the US, there’s genuine concern that even with all the precautions you’re taking- and I applaud you for doing so!- if you did become pregnant you might be forced to carry it.
Obviously I’m not them and don’t know your family dynamic, and I wasn’t there in the first place so I don’t know tone, but tbh, I don’t think it’s you they don’t trust. They’re reacting to the current political climate and because you (clearly) don’t want a baby right now. They’re concerned for you- which can absolutely feel smothering.
That said, I promise you that as a rando on the internet, my instinct is to tell everyone who can get pregnant and having sex (but who don’t want a kid rn) to be so so careful. Not because I don’t think you are, but in the same way I’d tell a competent driver to drive safely before a road trip- i.e., “shit happens, but I hope it doesn’t happen to you”.
I hate to say it, but enjoy it while it lasts….
I was in your position a few years ago, and now the conversation has taken a dramatic shift to “When are we getting Grandkids” all the time. I guess I am officially old.
I don’t think it’s about trust I think it’s about worry. You would not be the first person to get accidentally pregnant in their early 20s
I also want to note that even those together aren’t 100% my oldest is a testament to that.
I firmly believe it’s coming from a place of caring but also fear. They don’t want to see you have to make a difficult decision.