I joked with my mom today. It wasn’t a big thing… at least I didn’t think it was. Just a silly comment the kind people laugh at and move on. I thought maybe it would make her smile or at least break the weird silence we had.
But she didn’t find it funny. She got angry so fast slapped me, and then hit me again and I just stood there not even sure what I did wrong.
Now hours later it keeps playing in my head. I keep wondering if I crossed a line without realizing it. If maybe I should’ve stayed quiet or picked a better time or just not said anything at all.
It’s strange how one small moment can stick with you like that. How you start questioning yourself, your words, your timing… everything.
I don’t know. Maybe it was my fault. Maybe it wasn’t. But either way, it hurts.
Actually it was really not a good joke now I keep repeating it in my head it sounds so mean idk I said she acts like everything is a big problem but I said it as a joke really.
I know I shouldn’t have said that but I didn’t mean anything rude or mean or disrespectful how to fix this.
She gets angry so fast I hate this
I think I wouldn’t hit my kids for that.
Maybe I should go and apologize?
Also I think she hates me she once said “you look like your father” they’re divorced maybe she hates me because she remember him every time she looks at me?
My mom hit me
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It’s never okay to hit anyone, violence is not the answer
Was the joke that bad? I’m confused on that part, but regardless it doesn’t warrant a slap
That slap was never about the joke it was about her losing control and using you as a release. You cannot keep shrinking yourself to avoid her explosions because that’s not love it’s survival.
She shouldn’t have hit you. I don’t really understand how the comment was meant to calm or soothe or be funny. Even said with a smile it sounds dismissive and invalidating. That’s no excuse for hitting you or anyone else. Is she usually quick to get physical? I’m not excusing her and not blaming you AT ALL, just trying to understand how an awkward silence got violent.
My mom once slapped the shit out of me. It’s the only time she ever hit me in the face. I was 15 and just tired of her. My mom could be emotionally reactive and super demanding. She expected immediate action on all requests. I was fed up and laughed right in her face when she told me to go do something in my room (clean up or make the bed or something, can’t remember). She grabbed me by the neck with her left hand and slapped me with the right while pushing me into the wall. I had crescent nail marks in my neck, a couple drew blood. She cried and ran off and called my big sister and handed me the phone and ran off again crying.
She shouldn’t have put her hands on me. She never did again. She scared both of us. We had reached our limit in dealing with each other and as a parent she should have deescalated things instead of getting physical. I think she blanked. Not an excuse, but after months of us arguing, it explains how we got there.