So for context, I [M21] study abroad and came back to my home country for 2 months for an internship. The internship isn’t in my hometown, and my mom [F62] lives alone in my hometown. When I come back to my home country I stay with her.
3 days ago, I came back to my hometown after having finished my internship, and this is my last week in my hometown, and since it’ summer, all my friends are in my town (all my friends left for college). So of course I go out everyday to see them before leaving. But my mom has been guilt-tripping me since I came back from my internship because I go out a lot (everyday in the afternoons). She says that I should spend more time with her, which I completely understad, but I am going on a trip with her for the entire month of august to her homecountry. And she has been getting on my nerves because of this and now she is contantly mad at me.
Whenever we go back to her home country she gets quite stressed and everytime the time approaches she becomes very nervous and every interaction ends up in a fight and going non-verbal afterwards until she admits that she isn’t doing well. But the guilt-tripping is a new thing this time.
**TL;DR; : How to get out of my mom's guilt-tripping ?**
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I have a friend whose mom was very similar. When we were in our early 20s, she still had a curfew and was only allowed to do one ‘fun thing’ a week. Things only improved after she moved out and learned to set firm boundaries.