so my cousin got married last weekend, and i guess i caused a scene without even trying. i (22F) was a bridesmaid, and the dresses were simple. long, satin, kind of a champagne color. nothing flashy. i got mine altered so it fit me better, but i swear i didn’t change anything crazy. it was the same length, same style, just a little more fitted.
the wedding was beautiful, the ceremony went fine, and everything seemed normal until the reception. at some point, i noticed my mom acting weird, kind of giving me these looks but not saying anything. i figured she was just stressed or whatever. but then, during dinner, she leans over and whispers, “did you really have to make it so tight”
i was like, “what??” and she just sighs and goes, “you know how you look in that, it’s a little inappropriate”
i was so confused. like, all the bridesmaids were wearing the same dress. i just got mine tailored to fit me. but apparently, that was a problem because my mom wasn’t the only one making comments. one of my aunts (who i barely talk to) made a snide remark about how i was “enjoying the attention” and even the bride’s sister (not my cousin) said something about how i was “pulling focus”
i don’t even know what to say. i wasn’t trying to get attention, i was literally just wearing what they told me to wear. but by the end of the night, my mom was so upset, saying i should’ve known better and that it wasn’t my day.
i mean, was i really wrong for this
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Fuck em, if your problem is being too hot at a wedding I’d say they’re probably just envious more than offended.
If it was okay with the bride, it was okay.
If you’re at the point where the bride’s sister is upset, you most likely took it too far.
Haters gonna hate. You do you
They’re jealous because you’re sexy based on this post and description. You can only do you. It’s insane of them to attack you for showing up and doing your at the wedding. Sounds like you have many old, fat, bitter people in your family who never worked out
Idk ask the bride
I think weddings exist only for people to find conflit with others.
I don’t want to say anything but if multiple people are saying it is it possible to be true??
You or the dress were not the problem! And congratulations on having an envious figure! You wore the dress asked of you and had the foresight to have it tailored so it didn’t look bunched up in places. Satin is not forgiving and will lay on any roll or bulge, so having it fitted is ideal, but you clearly looked great in it. You can’t blame yourself for looking good. Damn if you do damned if you don’t.
Not wrong from what you’re writing here, but if several people made that much of a fuss about it, I’m wondering what it actually looked like. Wait – do you have a big bust? If the alteration made you look bustier, that’s probably the explanation. People get really weird about women with naturally large busts. In that case, you did absolutely nothing wrong!
I have no comment on the “they’re jealous” you seem to be angling for, but-why are you surprised people noticed that you altered the dress to be more form fitted when others didn’t? Did you not think it would be mega obvious standing in line that one of you changed the dress to a different shape?
Isn’t it a little bit disingenuous to both say you didn’t want attention and then do a thing that would reasonably draw attention?
I’d say talk to the bride about it. I don’t really understand why having a dress that fits you is cause for drama, but if multiple people are saying so, I would investigate more. They very well could just be trying to start something out of nothing, but the only persons who opinion matters here is the brides.
And if your dress was too loose fitting they would have said that it was embarrassing. Either the bride is insecure and didn’t want anyone to look better than her or your family is judgmental and toxic. Sorry that you looked hotter than the bride but I wouldn’t let it bother me if I were you.
Insecurity at its finest.
And if your dress was too loose fitting they would have said that it was embarrassing. Either the bride is insecure and didn’t want anyone to look better than her or your family is judgmental and toxic. Sorry that you looked hotter than the bride but I wouldn’t let it bother me if I were you.
We need a pic…
Unless you took a loose/a-line dress and turned it into a bodycon dress, I’d ignore your mother. If you did actually alter the silhouette, you overstepped. But none of us were there and we have only your interpretation. Any pics of your dress vs the other bridesmaids’?
I have to wonder what the tailoring involved that multiple people felt the need to negatively comment on it. Properly fitting is fine, provocative and overly sexy is not.
How tight? Did you ok the alterations with the bride, including honest photos that showed exactly how it was altered?
Simple satin sounds like a sheath or slip-type dress and those are pretty loose and give you a sleek profile. Where was it fitting?
Post a pic of all you bridesmaids together.
Post feels fake to me
I bet OP is busty. God forbid a busty woman wear something that fits her, automatically a jezebel. I hate that.
There’s something missing here. There’s tailored then there’s body con.
I suspect tailored to fit is code for a little too skimpy. Time and place fail for you on the tailoring.
i say you post a pic and let the community decide. before alterations and after. I already know won’t OP wont do that – because they only respond to comments that support them.
I’m SHOCKED there is a link to your only fans account.
I’ve seen far too many posts like this where we’re all like, ‘I’m sure it was fine and you looked lovely. The other person is overreacting.’ And then OP finally posts a photo and it’s soo ridiculously inappropriate.
The only person’s opinion that matters is the bride. You will need to ask her and if she says yes, don’t get defensive with the “I just tailored it to fit me” crap. She gets final say over whatever line she feels you crossed with how much tailoring you had done.