I finally told my mom the reason I haven’t been answering her. She’s very religiously blind. My mom has been abusing me in many ways for years. I’ve had my family completely turned against me because of her manipulating the situation. As a young girl I was SA’d numerous times at a church by the pastors son. My “mother” continues to attend,work services and give money to this church. I see my mom on the churches live stream standing next to my abuser. She doesn’t care. I texted her a paragraph which I would post but it won’t let me attach so I pasted it below.
Context: I live in a different state. I am married. My dad doesn’t know of my assault and my mother feeds him lies to make me seem horrible. My dad rides for my mom and will always go by her.
“”I’m not ignoring my family.I call dad but just get told I’m ghosting everyone and how I treat you terribly . He barely answers cause he hates texting but will never call me unless I do. I do the best I can. I’m tired of hearing that I’m ghosting you guys when I’m not. Effort goes both ways. Again nobody calls me on holidays or even my birthday. I’ve visited home numerous times not as much this year but I’ve shown up. Nobody but my brother has attempted to see me. Im your daughter ma.I don’t feel important either. But after everything we’ve been through I 100% thought you weren’t going to that church but you do weekly. You work and continue to give money to a church that has no problem with covering up pedophiles and be in the same room as the guy with no issue. As your daughter that’s very hurtful and I’m done being blamed for not talking to you. There is a reason and I think anyone would agree with my decision. If dad knew I would hope he’d agree as well. You continue to hurt me and then wonder why I’m distant with you. I’m sorry and I love you but I can’t understand why my mother would go support/work and give money to a church that I was abused at and be in the same room as him the man himself.””
Her reply:
She’s foreign so her English is a bit broken
“”I’m so sorry you feel that way , I always going to be here for you, just keeping praying that God will heal your heart ❤️ if you feel that you need to tell you dad go head and I never going to talk you again. For your own good you should heal your heart ❤️ you have a great life, great husband who loves you, eventually you will have a kids , my life was not easy , was really hard I was dying inside ,took me so long to give all the suffering God , he was the only who could take all my pain and suffering, I hope one day he would do the same thing for you 🙏 all my love always , I will not bother you anymore ❤️ That is your opinion and I’m not going to defending myself, have a great night love you 😘 “”
Not sure how to feel other than numb. I’m proud of myself for finally speaking my truth. But now I’m unsure what to do. Part of me knows if I tell me dad he won’t care. He’s never been the type to listen and be serious. I’d have to unpack a lot during that conversation and I just see it not being taken seriously. I’m going no contact with my mother. I’m just sad. Just needed somewhere to type all this out.I’m sorry for venting.
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