My mom wanted a 4th kid so cheat cheated to get one.

Edit to add (the title got messed from autocorrect. My apologies)

Very long winded I’m sorry in advance. I’ll answer questions if anyone has any.

So I (28 female) found out a little backstory from my mom about her pregnancy with me. I haven’t shared it with anyone else because I was worried people would look at me differently. So my mom (56) and dad (59 man who raised me and will always be my dad) got married at young age and my dad was in the navy so they moved around a bit. In the first 4/5 years of their marriage (mom was 18 when they got married) they had 3 boys. My mom always spoke about her grandmother telling her that she wasn’t done yet. That she would have a girl. I’m not sure what happened in the 5 years between but my dad had decided to get a vasectomy right before going to Japan for a few months for the navy. After dad left, mom had decided that she was going to have a girl and found a friend who was willing to be a “doner” I say that loosely because all in all, it was cheating. Awhile goes by and she finds out that she’s pregnant and then freaks out because she didn’t want to lose dad. She called dad to tell him, and offered to immediately put the baby up for adoption if it meant that he was going to stay. Dad told her to wait til he gets home in a couple weeks and discuss this properly. Meanwhile the person that she used as a doner found out that it worked. He went awol and started following her. Would randomly show up at the house, watch her doing chores and stay silent. Would follow her to the store and follow as she shopped and then follow on the way home. He then started threatening to take her to court once I was born for custody of me. Dad came home and they pushed through the pregnancy, the man (we will call him George) had slowly stopped harassing my mom after dad came home. Few months go by and then my parents received a knock on the door. It was Georges wife and kids. She came to inform my mom that George had just fled the house because she called the cops for him holding her at gun point for 3 days straight because she found out about the affair and was trying to leave with the kids. Mom and dad immediately started looking to move houses so that he wouldnt know where they lived (surprise, he was watching the entire time an moved into a house down the street to keep an eye on them) they didn’t say much more about the subject except for the fact that the moment I was born, my dad said I would get whatever I want because I was perfect. (I swear his words, not mine)

Growing up I look more like my dad than I do George. I have never gotten a paternity test done because it doesn’t matter, my dad is my dad and George is a bit crazy. I was curious if vasectomies could fail and sure enough, in the time frame of when mom got pregnant with me, is well within the time frame of a vasectomy failing.

Tldr;moms grandma told her she was going to have another baby, that she wasn’t done yet. Mom held onto it and cheated while my dad was out of country. Got pregnant and the decided to tell me for whatever reason and I’ve held onto it since I was 15.

Sidenote: all of the extra bullying from my older brothers makes sense now as an adult. I was the odd one out and they knew mom had cheated. Now as adults we are way closer than when I was young which is nice.