I’ve been telling her for years that I’m not comfortable with specifically my childhood photos on her Facebook. I just brought it up to her yesterday and she just ignores my messages. She ended up posting a photo of me as a baby this afternoon which seems deliberate and I don’t know how to handle it. She has probably hundreds of photos of me on there as a kid and I’m sure it would be annoying to remove them all and they were all posted before I could consent to them.
My mom won’t delete photos of me off of her Facebook
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They’re her pictures. She can post them wherever she wants. Is this really the hill you want to die on?
Stop looking at her FB. If she’s trying to provoke you, dunt take the bait.
I’m a mother and I actually respect my children’s wishes for privacy. You can teach her a lesson by taking some unflattering pictures of her and posting them on your Facebook or instagram (with tags) until she takes you seriously.
I’m a mum and I always ask my son (19) if it’s ok to post pics of him, he gets to choose what I can post.
Just stop rising to the bait, she obviously did it as a dig. At the end of the day they are her photos to do with as she likes on her page. It’s just unfortunate she isn’t respecting your wishes.
Well if you mom does not respect you or you wishes. There are conquest’s for her actions. Just because she is your mother does not give her the right to do this. And by her last post it was done internal to prove she can abuse you. This is not love it’s control and manipulations.
I would send her a message the you no longer want to have anything more to do with her and cut her off 100% Block her number and anyone she has contacting your over this. Block her on all social media too. This may go on for months maybe a year. But don’t take her calls at all. She will go through other to reach out. Mothers like this hate not having control. If you have kids. this goes for everyone in you family. Grandmothers can’t handle this.
No card , holidays ect.
I would make her take down every one and give you all the photos and delete them from her phone too. If you can’t trust her as you mother to follow you wishes.
Put her on defense not you. Right now that is what she is doing to you.
What ever you do don’t back down or give in easy , Longer the better.. Really you will find this very peaceful not having to deal with her behavior. She need to earn her place in your life. not the other way around. Don’t fall for all the crap she will say I gave you life. I feed you. Yea you would have went to jail if you did not feed your child. If you did not want my why did you have me. ? Don’t fall for that crap parents say.
Cant you report them to get them removed?
Take some candid shots of mom sleeping and in her pajamas or walking out for the paper with her nightie and post them.
Hey! I went through similar with my ex godmother and biological father. Hopefully this method can help you.
You can report these photos to Facebook. (But be careful if you are currently under 18 with an active Facebook, it can be deleted or banned iirc.) The report system is intended for minors whos photos are posted without consent, but if youre an adult just mark it as best you can and when they email to ask for proof of identity and report details, you just let them know that you did not consent to these photos being posted, they are of you as a minor.
I was able to get some photos from my bio fathers Facebook taken down without having to interact with him. They also assured me that personal info about the report and who reported the photos isnt shared with the Facebook user. Though I dont know what they do tell users about reports, and if photos of just you keep getting taken down she may start suspecting you have something to do with it. So be careful of any pushback or wait till you leave or are low/no contact.
Godmother deleted photos eventually so I didn’t end up trying this method with her posts. Good luck!
She could change the audience on the pictures to be “Close friends” so only family could see them. You’d have to work out how to do that so you could explain, but it’s pretty straight forward.
I believe in people having autonomy over their own online presence.
Ah…so its begun! Sad man, seriously this going to be common i guess.
You do not own photo’s of yourself not taken by yourself.
Boo hoo. Your mom literally made you. Show some respect.
Unfriend and block her on FB.
I had this issue with my mother so I went no-contact and “asking before posting” was one of the rules to get me back. She’s been respectful about it since.
Reporting the photos as “I’m in this photo” helps them get taken down, too.