My mother passed away 2 months ago and I have no idea what to do at this point. As upset as I am, I am really worried for my dad. Some nights he’ll just come in my room hold me and cry. I never know what to say or do to make him feel better so I’ll just hug him, but I feel like I should say something. It kills me to see my dad this heartbroken. He’s also been beating himself up a lot, he doesn’t think he’s a good dad and isn’t going to do well raising me by himself. I always tell him that you know he’s not a bad dad at all, but I don’t know if it’s sticking. What can I do? I want to mention maybe we should go to grief counseling, but I don’t know if it’s to soon or if he’ll be up to it. I know I should be working on my own mental health considering that it was my mom who passed, but I can’t focus on myself when my dad is struggling really bad. How can I talk to him when he cries? What can I say?
My mother died, I don’t know what to do
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are there people you could get together to have a weekend dinner or bbq?
1st you need to understand that none of this is your fault or your responsability. You’re not your dad’s psychologist. That being said he seems to not know what to do either. Please understand that there isn’t much you can do but be with him. That is more than enough. You don’t need to do something. You can’t do much but being with your dad. That’s all
Encourage him to go to grief counseling with you.
My mother passed on my birthday in 2015. It was the hardest thing for myself and family. It affected my then marriage and my personal well being. I can only offer this. Take time for yourself and your family. Spend time with them but also continue to do what you enjoy (walks, hiking etc) but also take time to mourn your mother. It is the hardest thing I’ve ever dealt with. Be there for your dad take him to lunch or a walk just reassure him his world isn’t collapsing around him. I still mourn the passing of my mom, but I don’t focus on it like I use to. I know she’s ok and in a better place and my soul is completely comfortable with that. I am very sorry for your loss. Be strong for your dad and yourself!