My mother mentioned removing me from her will. I won’t be attending her funeral and frankly, wholeheartedly, she can die alone on her deathbed for all I care

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My mum has done nothing her entire life except stay at home smoking weed and cigarettes, drinking booze, and living off the disability pension because she has “stress”. She has hardly worked a day in her entire life. Growing up, she never provided me or my brother with any support, help, guidance or anything. She parked us in front of the television and smoked weed all day long, barely ever speaking to us. We had no money to have hobbies and barely ever went out, any extra money was spent on her drugs. Her only idea of getting people to do things was yelling and screaming. She has no accountability for her actions or pathetic life, and blames everyone else for everything wrong in her life. I can go on forever, but you get the idea; she’s a very toxic, pathetic, self-victimizing joke of a human being.

I moved out about 5 years ago and have been nothing but nice to her since. Many others would resent their parent and cut off contact with them, but I chose to be nice. Giving her phone calls, helping her with things, visiting her, etc. She was given a $1m+ inheritance on a golden platter since then. Recently, she got into a fight with my brother and mentioned removing us both from her will (not the first time she’s said that). It’s made me realize that the ONLY thing she has to offer me is her money. Outside of that, there is literally nothing in the entire world that she has to offer me. She’s done a terrible job at being a mother and caused so much stress and anxiety in my life. My life became infinitely better when I was able to stop living with her.

So after pondering for a while I’ve come to the realization that if she doesn’t leave me any inheritance, then I would sincerely, wholeheartedly be glad to never see her ever again. She completely failed at being a mother, gets given a million bucks and doesn’t want her kids to have any? Imagine spending your whole life doing nothing but abusing your children and making their lives miserable, just to leave them nothing. She can sincerely rot in hell for all I care.

Comments

  1. SWCFM2 Avatar

    I’m sorry you went through that. I hope you are able to find happiness in your life.

  2. Glassheart27 Avatar

    I’m so sorry, your child self deserved to be seen and heard, loved and cared for, and so does adult you. But i can tell that you’re a very strong person, and i think that if you decide to cut her off you’ll be just fine, if not better. Remember, we can’t choose our relatives, but we can choose our family. Wishing you the best! ☀️❤️‍🩹

  3. bishopredline Avatar

    Stayed home and smoked weed all day. What could she possibly leave you in her will

  4. NoNoNeverNoNo Avatar

    I’m so sorry. I feel your pain. I had a great mom but when I decided to change religions at the age of 29 she disowned me and took me out of her will. She hasn’t spoken to me in 13 years. Found out through the grapevine that she she has cancer. She tried to reach out to me a little after that but the damage is done. I want no part of it. Bcuz I know that once she goes into remission she’ll just disown me again. Bcuz in her world, her religion comes first. You have to protect your own heart, mental and emotional well being first. Sending you hugs.

  5. BrightAd306 Avatar

    The money will be gone anyway. Someone who lives like that isn’t going to save for the future

  6. FinalBlackberry Avatar

    I hope you get something at least- for the therapy session you should have.

    I’m so sorry, as someone who has mom issues, do what’s best for you!