I feel completely numb. My mom, my best friend, my heart, passed away today. I’m so empty inside man. I feel so weak. I woke up today at 3pm with two of the most terrifying text messages I’ve ever received. Her birthday was just on the 12th and that was the very last time I seen and heard her voice. On that day, a restaurant she wanted food from was closed by the time we got there and I told her I would take her that following Sunday. I’m not doing so great financially so when that day came, I avoided her calls and her texts messages the following week. I’m such a shitty son. I feel so terrible right now. I could’ve done so much more for her. Now I’ll never hear her voice again, now I’ll never get a random tik tok video from her that made her laugh. I’m 29 and I don’t even know how to navigate this type of situation. I feel frozen in time with the weight of this realization crushing my chest. My older sister is in the hospital right now and they didn’t have the best relationship, so I know she isn’t going to help me with this situation. I can’t afford funeral arrangements or pay for a cremation. I don’t want to accept that I’m even awake right now because this honestly can’t be real. I’m a pathetic pos and I just miss my mom
My mother passed away today
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Hi Bro, I’m sorry to hear about your loss! Please don’t feel bad about what happened. We are all humans and make mistakes. My suggestion is come out of this sorrow and do something to make your mom feel proud. She will be watching you from heaven and will be proud of your accomplishments. It can be small things like finding a good job, get rid of bad habits (smoking, drinking), help a needy friend or elders, taking care of yourself and surroundings, .. i know you love her so much and she will always be there for you in spiritually. God bless.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’m still blessed with having my birth mother and have a pretty good relationship with my brothers and sister along with mother but not my father, that’s a whole different story I don’t want to get into.
I’d be so lost if my mother passed also that I wouldn’t know what to do that id probably just shut down mentally.
I’m not sure where you’re at but if you’re in the US, there are programs to help you bury or cremate your loved ones. SSI has a program, local governments have one, and even memorial societies can help you get in touch with people that can help you. Worst comes to worst, you can sign a form with the county coroner allowing them to take care of your mother’s remains.