I’m a 20F working away from home, and I only get to visit once a month because my job is on-site. Recently, I found out something disturbing — one of my neighbors has been secretly taking my photos from social media and using them to create fake accounts.
He edits my pictures alongside his own to make it look like we’re a couple, then uploads them online as if we’re in a relationship. What’s even weirder is that I barely know this guy, but he acts like we’re close. He even asks my nephew to send greetings to me on his behalf. I confronted him and told him to stop, but instead of apologizing, he threatened to kill himself if we don’t end up together. I’m just a young woman trying to build my life, work hard, and reach my goals. I never imagined I’d be dealing with something like this. It’s disturbing and emotionally exhausting. I don’t feel safe, and I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I hate that someone’s delusion is starting to affect my peace of mind.
It’s frustrating and honestly scary. I don’t know if I should report it to someone or just keep ignoring him.
PS: you might be wondering why the username is different. Well, I’m just using my nephew’s account since I don’t really use Reddit much.
Comments
This is absolutely not okay you have every right to feel scared and disturbed. Please report this to the police and document everything. Your safety and peace of mind come first.
This is beyond creepy, you must report him. Obsession disguised as love is still harassment, and ignoring it only lets gun tighten the fantasy he’s already forcing you into.
Thats creepy asf you should report it to the popo, he can end up doing some other weird and disgusting shi* later on if youre not careful
Report this to the police and get a restraining order ASAP. That is extremely concerning, and his behavior is about as emotionally manipulative as it gets. Threatening to kill himself is classic emotional relationship manipulation.
And honestly, if he actually does go through with it, then don’t at all feel guilty if he does- because it is not your fault.
Please don’t accept his attempted guilt and emotional blackmail as your responsibility. Tell someone, his parents, police and document any contact that occurs.
He sounds dangerous. I genuinely believe you may be in danger. I’m a MALE.
this is beyond creepy, report him immediately this isn’t a crush, it’s stalking
police asap
So, ignore his suicide threats. This is a pretty typical response from someone like this and if you give in once, it only teaches them that it works and so they’ll continue to use it.
Gather up all the evidence you have, all of it, and start documenting things. Report all of his posts with you in them to whatever the platform is. Involve law enforcement and yeah, get a restraining order if you have to. If you’re both renting – especially if you both live in the same appartment complex – I would also bring this to either his landlord or the complex manager, and let them know the steps you’re taking. Some places will have terms in the lease about harassing other tenants and he could be inviolation of that.
Threatening to harm himself if you don’t end up together is completely unacceptable and emotionally manipulative. Please report it.
Police ASAP… and then every single time he does anything.
They start off like this, and then they can escalate.
An old neighbour I had was creepy and obsessed too. He escalated, I won’t scare you with details (unless you want to know) , but please go to police.
This is never OK & this is never your fault. Please keep us updated.
That’s not ok. Carry mace. Um, report him. That’s just weird. I don’t see that ending well. Be safe
It might be a good idea to document everything that’s happening and consider reporting it to the authorities or seeking advice from someone who can help, like a trusted friend or family member. You deserve to feel safe in your own space.
Sorry to hear that..that is not only super creepy but I would be very alert of your surroundings.
Don’t talk to him anymore. Get a personal alarm..and report it to police. Get the report or case number and don’t leave without..no matter what they say…
Talk to your family and everyone else who wants to hear it..DONT suffer in silence that is what he is betting on.. Also talk to your other neighbours and let them know what is happening….they might save your life one day.
If you CAN move, move..
This is very dangerous. Be careful and do not follow a routine route whenever you visit. This weirdo could likely even attempt to kidnap you. Report him to the police and never engage with him. Not even a hello not the slightest acknowledgement of his pathetic existence to give him validation
That’s only the start with these types.
As everyone has said, report him and GET A RSO!!
As a mother, I can’t tell you how much I want to come down there myself and deal with him myself… 😐
I’ve had stalkers and they reached the point they started calling in bomb threats to the school and got the balls to try threatening me (that one learned fast that I was NOT scared of him.)
He knows exactly what he’s doing and those reactions are his way of getting out of being held responsible because it has likely worked for him before (or he thought it did bc the victim likely was scared and didn’t say anything else/managed to get away)
Don’t just report him, research legal weapons & keep one at home. You also should invest in some security cameras.
Please tell some men you trust! People who you know will want to help.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
pa blotter mo na yan
This is serious and not your fault save the evidence, report him, lock down your socials, tell your family, and don’t deal with it alone. Your safety comes first.
Definitely report this and find out if the authorities will confiscate his technology and any memory cards, etc.. this is physical stalking and cyberstalking.
You may need to take down your social media accounts as well.
What a creep. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this bs.
Here we are once again with a perfect example of why we’ll choose the bear every time.
I know this is hard. Inform the authorities of what he threatened. Get a restraining order if possible. If he deletes, that’s not your fault or your business. You do what you can to get this handled by someone else to some extent and then, hope for the best and arm yourself with something, you need to be able to defend yourself just in case.
Sending my prayers.
If you carry a large purse, buy a can of wasp spray. It has a much better reach than regular mace & put a couple of cans in the house. (bedroom, front door, back door) Light his ass up if he attempts to enter your house, or approaches you outside. Get that restraining order ASAP!
I’m so sorry, that is totally creepy. His stated intention to self-harm is enough of a reason to call the police for a wellness check. I would think that would also help you get a restraining order. People who live in fantasy worlds can be dangerous if reality knocks too loudly, so please be safe.
If you can get security cameras and do report this to the police…the guy sounds unhinged and he could snap anyway. Get a restraining order and if possible move out…. be extra cautious…
Sounds as though you have a stalker. Not good. Report him to the police. Behaviour like this can escalate. Early intervention by police might well be enough to put an end to the problem.
Police. Now
in this order
* pepper spray on you at all times. I literally always have it on my keys and carry my keys with me when i’m out my apt.
* police report
* restraining order
* gun (I know this one’s controversial, but I’ve had a stalker. The police response time is slow. By the time they get there, they’ll be collecting your body for the morgue)
* gun range
* have your gun on you at all times. he approaches you, kill the npc.
oh and airtag yourself and share your airtag location details at all times with your friends. you could put one inside your shoes if you’re paranoid like me.
This is really scary, like possible serial killer scary. Please file a police report on this guy. They may not be able to charge him with anything, but it establishes a paper trail if he escalates this nonsense. I would also tell as many family members and friends about this guy and make sure that he’s aware that if something happens to you, the cops will at him first.
He meant, “If we can’t be together then I will kill YOU and then myself”. Go talk to the police!
I’m actually kind of surprised that you are still alive on this earth to make this post with someone like this in your life. get help immediately.
😬 It might be time for a gun and a protection dog.