I’m a girl from Colombia. Both of my parents died, my dad first, then my mom not long after. It still doesn’t feel real. Some days I wake up expecting to hear her voice in the kitchen. Then I remember. And it hits me all over again.
Now I live with my sister. She tries to be there for me, but she has her own life, her own pain. I don’t blame her. I just feel so incredibly alone. Like I’m in a room full of people but still invisible.
I don’t have a job I care about. I don’t have a passion or some big dream. I just… exist. Eat, sleep, fake small talk, repeat. There’s this heaviness in my chest that never goes away. Some nights I stare at the ceiling and wonder if it would really matter if I wasn’t here tomorrow.
I’m not looking for sympathy or advice. I just needed to say it somewhere, because holding it in is killing me slowly. And maybe, just maybe, letting it out like this will keep me breathing for another day.
If you read this, thank you. That’s more than most people have done for me lately.
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❤️❤️❤️ losing my parents is my biggest fear, I can’t even imagine how you’re feeling, but, I just wanted to say it will absolutely matter if you’re not here anymore. Things are going to feel this way for a while, but, not forever.
Please find someone you can speak to. Your sister, a friend, teacher? Someone. Anyone. People want to help, but they can’t unless they know.
You’ve taken an amazing first step here, but we can’t help in the way that you need. Only those who you are close to and love you can help.
Speak to your sister. I can guarantee she’ll want to help. You need to grieve together.
It will get easier, I promise. For now, consider this a hug from a stranger who cares.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Is there counselling available to you? It doesn’t have to be constant or permanent but it could do you some good to have someone to talk to, even just once. Get a few feelings out instead of letting them fester inside you
I lost a parent ( not in death) but in another way . It took me yrs to learn to cope with the idea. It still bothers me to this day . U are seen , u are heard , u will be missed . If u need someone to talk to im here . I may be just a stranger on the net but im here if u need to talk . Please don’t be afraid to reach out
amiga lo siento mucho, de verdad no me imagino que estarás sintiendo. creo que te va a hacer bien hablar con otra persona sobre esto, mejor si es un terapeuta. alguien con quien te sientas cómoda y te pueda ayudar de alguna forma. El tiempo pasa y las heridas sanarán, a tus viejos los llevas en todo lo que haces, hasta cuando hablas (porque tus primeras palabras fueron por ellos). se que no buscas consejos, asi que fuerzas !!! vos podes !!
Maybe volunteer around some animals, even a farm or a dog/cat rescue.
The animals will sense your energy and support you. Caring for others is also a way to work back to caring for ourselves.
I’m sorry for your loss. You and your sister will make it. Lean on each other for support. It’s all you can really do. Take it one day at a time.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m likely many years older than you. I’m technically an orphan and have been for 8 years. It’s not easy, at any age, to accept that truth.
You’ll always have a hole in your heart. While it will never heal 100%, it will scar over and you will be able to continue living your own life. Be sure to maintain your connections with loved ones. Take care OP! 💛
You’re deep in your grief right now and I’m so sorry. It sucks. My dad died two months ago and I’m still reeling from it.
Something that’s helping me is knowing that, even if it feels like my dad is gone too soon, this is part of the human experience. Our loved ones die, and we grieve them. It’s terrible, and yet it will happen to everyone. It sounds like your parents are gone much too soon, and I’m so sorry for that. This next little while will feel hopeless and awful, and then bit by bit you will start to come out of it. Hugs.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Please find someone to talk to! Your parents would not want you to suffer in silence 🤍
No one is saying it so I’ll say it – please be very careful around unknown people offering you help. You sound like you are vulnerable at this phase in your life and people both online and offline could take advantage of that. Life has started very difficult for you but I assure you that you can have a wonderful life ahead of you. Spend time with people that let you grow and make you happy. If you find the power then start to help others. A lot of people carry a large baggage but you wouldn’t know because they are ashamed of it. All the best!
How long ago is this? I’m 33 and my dad died 1,5 years ago, my 2nd dad last January, my mother has been dead 10 years.
I just want to say: your feelings are valid and normal. They do get easier to deal with, though. Are you educated? Able to go to work and find something that gives you purpose or, at least, some positive energy? At some point, you’ll need to go out into the world again, and it’s a good idea to think about it a few minutes every day until you’re ready.
Hey im in the same boat, just existing. You are not alone in this.
Your Mom and Dad brought you into this world to live. To live is to love. The love is why you’re here. Now go live u deserve it.
Like another comment said, things are going to feel shitty for a while. But I want you to know that even if you don’t realize it, every day it gets a little bit easier. You’ll never feel the same again but things WILL get better. They will.
I am so sorry for the loss of your parents. I cannot imagine the pain and hurt you’re going through.
Not sure if you’ve considered this but try finding a grieving group in your local area. You may be able to connect with others in your situation without feeling you’re burdening your sister. Maybe even go together.
I feel like this too. I lost both parents, 2 of the remaining grandparents and 2 uncles in the last 6 years. I live alone and i’m completely on my own. Sometimes i wake up feeling so fucking empty that i wish i had never been born.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. You’ve been through a lot, and it’s okay to feel lost and overwhelmed. The fact that you’re still here, still sharing, even just in writing it means something. You matter more than you think, even when it doesn’t feel that way.