The title pretty much says it all. Today during dinner I was trying to have an honest conversation with my family about my younger brother’s volleyball game and when I asked a genuine question my dad told me to
“shut [my] mouth, you smug little asshole.” My mom nodded and agreed and they continued their conversation as if nothing had happened. In all honesty, maybe I could have curbed my attitude, but I feel that that’s beside the point, right? My dad insulted me to my face-essentially telling me he hates me—and both my mom and brother did nothing in my defense.
I waited at the dinner table for about an hour after that hoping one of them would come by to apologize.
Neither of them did. When I walked past my dad on my way upstairs I slowed down, hoping he would at least look me in the eyes, which he also didn’t. When I made it to my room, I heard my mom laughing and talking on the phone as if, unlike me, she was unfazed by the fact that she berated her own son.
I’ve made a few posts on Reddit like this when similar situations have happened before, but I always end up deleting them because I eventually forgive my parents, for better or worse. I mean, just this morning, my dad gave me a fist bump and told me to have a good day at school. Am I blowing this out of proportion? Do you think he really meant what he said?
Any kind of reassurance would be greatly appreciated right now.
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I’m 17 and basically have experienced what you’ve just said. My advice is to genuinely speak about it not because of a sappy and unrealistic reason but because, it never gets any better. I also thought they would think about my feelings but I realized they don’t care. If you have a good family and communicate your issues well, I believe they’ll change.
If you never speak about it, it ruins your: mental health, self worth, relationship with family and many more. I’m sorry if this seems blunt but If I was to turn back time this is what I would do. Even today I am treated as a pushover also so I hope you speak about how you felt and solve this issue 🙏
Damn, getting called out like that by your pops in front of everyone… talk about a gut punch. But let’s be real, he’s the one with the dickish behavior issues here, you didn’t ask for that verbal abuse, no way. Remember, people who sling insults at their kids are usually projecting their own messed up stuff, so don’t take it personally… unless you’re into that kind of toxic family vibe.
Taking.Charge. Your father’s harsh words were out of line and disrespectful! It’s about time you stand up for yourself-not just for your sake, but to show your little brother how he should assert himself too. How will he learn if you don’t lead by example?
What were you being honest about?
We’re you being an asshole though? You say “honest” but not actually what you said that prompted the comment.
They shouldn’t have done that, what did you ask?