I was always the responsible daughter, the one who got good grades and didn’t cause problems. So when my parents sent me to college and paid for the entire semester in advance, they never suspected a thing.
My parents really made a huge effort to give me my studies. They went into debt and had a loan in the bank intended for my education. They had no way to pay that debt easily. Now that I’m older is when I regret this and think about how I could be so unconscious with my parents. They paid every bank installment as best they could.
The problem was that he hated the career he had chosen. From day one, I knew I didn’t want to do that for the rest of my life. But instead of telling the truth, I made a decision that still haunts me: I continued with the lie.
Every morning I woke up early, dressed as if I were going to class, left the house… and spent the day in cafes, parks or at friends’ houses. I spent the semester’s money on clothes, short trips, restaurants, and parties. I convinced myself I was just “taking a break.”
I thought I could get away with it. Until the date of the final exams arrived.
My parents wanted to see my grades. I got nervous, but I tried to stay calm and told them that the university system was down. Then there were problems with the platform. After the teachers still did not publish the grades. Each excuse became more ridiculous.
Until my dad decided to call the university directly.
I don’t know what they said to him, but I’ll never forget the look on his face when he hung up. It wasn’t anger. It was disappointment.
He didn’t yell at me. He didn’t insult me. He just asked me with the calmest and coldest voice I had ever heard him say:
“Because?”
And in that moment, I realized that I had no answer that could fix what I had done.
I had to start working and pay my parents every penny they spent during that period when I didn’t attend classes and spent the money. But that day I lost my parents’ trust. Everything changed and they didn’t believe in me the same way again.
If you are still young and reading this. Don’t do it. Be honest with your parents and change careers or tell them that you don’t want to study while you think about what to do with your life.