I (29F) just found out my “boyfriend” (32M) is still married.
We’ve been together for 14 months. I met his “ex-wife” once when she dropped off their dog. He said they had a peaceful divorce, still friends, just co-parenting the dog until custody stuff was sorted. Seemed plausible.
Last week, I needed a document from our shared drawer and found a thick envelope with court papers. They were separation papers. Dated six months ago. Not finalized. Not even close.
When I confronted him, he admitted he lied. Said he “didn’t want to scare me away” and that “it’s basically over.” I asked if she knows about me, and he just stared at the floor.
I messaged her. She didn’t know. She thought they were working on things. She was still in marriage counseling ALONE.
She cried. I cried. I packed a bag and left.
He’s been calling nonstop saying I “overreacted” and that I should’ve “waited for the full story.”
What more is there to say?