TLDR
I F/25 have been together with my partner M/25 for 2 years.
We met in high school and he was my boyfriend for a couple of years before we parted ways (mostly immaturity,age etc). We got back in touch around aged 20 when my dad got really sick and I didn’t know who else to call. He was really there for me when I needed him but we did not plan on starting a relationship.
We would see each other around 2/3 times per year following this period for casual sex and to spend time together as friends. The sex was incredible. It was so intense and enjoyable, we would fuck for hours, it was so pleasurable and I felt amazing, powerful etc.
In this period we got closer and decided to become exclusive with each other and we have been together ever since. I love him so much and he is so thoughtful towards me and us as a couple. He supported me through our miscarriage and helped us to work through that together.
Since we became exclusive the sex has become really infrequent. Initially,we were staying at his parents so he said that’s why we weren’t having as much sex,but now we own our own place and it’s still not often. I really want to have sex and feel a sexual spark with him, but the lack of sex seems to be messing with my mood. It makes me feel as though he isn’t attracted to me or doesn’t want me sexually which makes me feel shitty.
He is seeing a doctor about his hormone levels as blood results showed low testosterone (not sure if this would impact sex drive), but it feels like it’s taking forever and I feel so bad about it. I love him and I feel like I’m being shallow pinning so much on sexual pleasure but it seems to be taking a toll on me at the moment.
I worry that I don’t want to pin all of it to hormones, as I don’t know what will happen if the hormonal side gets fixed and this issue is still here.
Think it hurts mostly as we used to have such amazing sex,the sporadic sex we have now isn’t amazing and at times I feel like I’m having sex just because I don’t know the next time I will have chance, and I feel as though he told me it was one thing (living with parents) that had cut down the amount of sex,but now we live alone and it’s not.
Can anyone advise, recommend where to begin with this issue to move forward?
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