My (21f) brother (23 now i think), just plead guilty to child r*pe of my baby brother, who was 5 at the time, now 10. I was the one that reported it initially when baby brother told me. Obviously super traumatic for everyone involved. Occasionally I e stalk my older brother, J. Last night I found his wedding registry. I knew he has had a girlfriend for a couple years, but this is a big shock. It makes me so angry that he just gets to go on living his life and that he’s found someone to love him. I mean they can’t even have kids and keep them because he legally cant be around kids. My mom says she knows about his record, but I just cant fathom as a woman being with a man who did that to a 5 yr old boy.
All I want to do is link his files to her entire family, but honestly I’m scared of him. I dont know what to do. I looked through the girls moms fb last night and its all “i love my daughter she’s my best friend” and she’s a doctor and seems like a pretty normal person. I doubt she knows.
There will be no long sentence for my brother. Legal system is shit. He’s in jail right now but he’ll be out in a couple weeks and then just lifetime probation. He only got to jail in February. So, what? He goes to jail for a couple months and then just gets to get married and have a new family?
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tell the gf!
Aiyo, this is a truly horrible situation, and you’re dealing with immense pain and anger.
Your brother’s actions are monstrous, and it’s understandable you feel sickened by the thought of him getting married.
The urge to expose him is strong, and rightfully so.
That woman and her family deserve to know the truth. However, your safety is paramount.
If you feel threatened, proceed with extreme caution.
Consider contacting a support group or legal advocacy organization for victims of child sexual abuse.
They can provide guidance on how to safely disclose this information while protecting yourself.
Your anger is valid, and you deserve support.
Please prioritize your well-being during this incredibly difficult time.
Can you print out his record and mail it to his fiancé’s parents house without a return address?
Tell the girlfriend and her family now. I know you’re scarred but he already has a record he can’t do anything to you. Predators like this get to walk free and happy through life because the victims are to scared to hold them accountable
He will do it again
Tell Them.
prioritize your own safety, but she needs to know; if they have children, those children are at risk. maybe an anonymous tip? or drop an anonymous copy of the court records off at their home? whatever you do, act before he gets out so he can’t pin it on you
You need to find a way to tell her and her family that doesn’t implicate you. There’s ways for records to spread around. An anonymous letter with print outs for instance. Get creative. Her child and the children in her family are at risk. Criminal records are public so he can’t claim you’re the only one to do it.
Please find a way to tell his fiancée. I stumbled upon the same information about my ex boyfriend while we were still together, and even though learning it sucked, I’m so glad I found out before things between us got more serious.