Hello everyone,
I just wanted to get rid of the feelings I have right now off my chest and I guess that’s why I’m writing to Reddit . As I’m typing this, I am waiting to get picked up by my sister’s in-laws to have a night out and go barhopping. while I was getting ready to have a fun night, my sister decided to FaceTime me and as we were speaking, she decided to comment on how my body looks like and for context I have two kids so I definitely have a mom body which includes saggy b00bs and a saggy stomach. Which I know I could definitely work on my core muscles and slim down a little bit, but she didn’t need to attack me while I thought I look good. The thing that triggered me the most and I wanted to cry after doing my make up was when she said my body reminds her of Ash Trevino body if you know you know. Lmao. I am taking this as a wake up call to work on myself, but damn that comment really did hurt my feelings and I don’t know how to feel about it, but I’m glad my sister tells me the truth.
Thanks for reading:)
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You don’t have to be mean to tell the truth. Sister sounds jealous tbh. Maybe of your kids or your relationship or some other success you have that she doesn’t, so she’s going to try to tear you down however she can. Her toxicity is gross, not your strong powerful body that grew two whole humans inside it!
I think it’s weird that she’s comparing your body to other people’s bodies. Sure, I’ve compared my own body to others, but to spend the time and energy to compare other people’s bodies to other people’s bodies? Shit, get a(n additional) job or a hobby.
Bottom line: she needs to support you as her sister, not compare you to other people about how you could be versus how you are.
Growing and birthing children from your body is hard enough, but getting through the postpartum period and beyond is a greater challenge, in my opinion. The fact that your sister is bringing you down rather than lifting you up after this part of your life speaks more to her character than it does to yours.
Sisters are something else…
When I was bullied at school, I’d always tell the bully “I got three sisters at home, you thinking that hurts my feelings? lol”
They made me build a tough skin and 15 years later they still do it! Ha
It’s that unfiltered ruthless comments that never stop but at least it’s coming from family because I wouldn’t take it any better way if it came from a stranger. Lucky I can roast them back and we always end up laughing it off (it can take some weeks sometimes) but sometimes it’s the dirt that gets thrown on us that causes us to bloom and grow stronger than before. 🩵 you are amazing for growing two babies in your body! Just know that sometimes people point out things in others that are rooted to their own insecurities. Let what burns you, fuel you to be better.
As a petty mom, I would’ve wanted to have hung up on her and canceled the whole night. I have 3 kids, my body looks like it and could definitely be more toned but who has time or the mental energy to devote? I hope you don’t let her get away with that, everyone deserves to love themselves.