So I haven’t really talked to anyone about this but my sister not caring to talk to me has been eating away at me and making my life feel depressing. We have our issues but I’m willing to acknowledge my wrongs and work through them with her. She doesn’t care and tells me that whenever I speak to her about it. Not sure what to do. I would love some advice because I feel like I have no one
My sister won’t communicate with me and it hurts
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I’ve been there. Sometimes people need space. Don’t blame yourself. Take care of you.
Let her know you’re there as and when she’d like to start communicating, then stop trying. Focus on your other relationships. You can’t control other people. Only your response to them.
I am in the same situation with my older brother. He just stopped communicating with me, for no reason. He also don’t take any accountability and have big issues when criticising him. I am the 6 person in the family he went no contact with. It hurts, since he always relayed on me and I always helped him out. Never felt like I have an older brother to rely on. Looking back I just feel used and taking advantage of. I know he is a hurt soul but since he is not able to communicate his feeling or get professional help, I can’t and won’t do anything at this point. My door is open if he is ready. I found peace with it and left if to God.
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Wanting to fix things and being met with silence is incredibly painful. You’re not alone, and your effort to own your part shows real maturity. Her distance isn’t a reflection of your worth.
I don’t know what you did, but I think you need to accept that she isn’t willing for the moment.
You can let her know that you are willing to acknowledge your wrong doings and hoping to reconnect. But that’s about it. You can’t force someone to reconnect if they don’t want to.
She may change their mind in the future, so you have to be patient.
Yeah, I’ve not spoken to my sister for 20 years. It was grim.
But after our mother died, we became best friends
I’m sorry this is happening to you. But as someone who has not contacted certain family members in 2 1/2 years, as much as it hurts you, you have to understand that you cannot force someone to be in contact with you. She likely has her own reasons (right or wrong, that’s not for you to judge) for not wanting to be in contact with you and you need to respect that even if you don’t agree with it or it hurts. Just because someone is family does not mean we have to stay in contact with them if we feel it’s not good for us. That goes for anyone (not just her but you too). I know that’s not the answer you probably wanted to hear, but it’s the truth. So I would advise you to let things go, don’t try to contact her, and she might one day decide she wants to work things out with you and reach out to you, in which case, being compassionate and understanding (if you decide at that point you want to mend the relationship) is the best thing you can do. But don’t try to force it.