My uncle got married to a girl my age

I’m currently an 18 year old girl however I will turn 19 soon. I’m currently in college. I’m going to be a sophomore soon.  Some context: My family is from Bangladesh. My parents,aunts, uncles, and even some cousins immigrated to America. Most of my cousins, including me, were born in the U.S. One of my uncles, he is from my mother’s side, had a wife for about 10 years. After they moved to America, she left him and they had divorce. I was around 11 years old when it happened. In desi culture arranged marriages are common, and my uncle began looking for a wife through pictures and stuff, when I was in high school. However he wasn’t consistently looking until my family found out that his ex-wife remarried. (there is no big age difference between her and her new husband) Which led him to marrying his 18 year old through a video call. (their 25 years apart)

I’m absolutely disturbed by this. What made even more unsettling is one of my older uncles from the U.K. commenting how the girl looks like one my cousin (f) who lives in london. Note that me and my British cousin look like sisters. 

My mother met his wife through a video call and they had a family party in our home to celebrate my uncle’s marriage. What do my relatives think? Some of them actually don’t like the idea of marrying someone too young, however even though they think that, they still came to celebrate my uncle’s marriage and show their support. 

Am I the only one who thinks this messed up? It feels like a cruel joke. More things to be said, my mother was always strict with me being friends with boys, as I got older I made less guy friends, and then I ended up in all-girls high school. It wasn’t a pleasant experience at all. I’m still trying to heal from the pain. I really felt like I missed out a lot in high school. My cousin who is a senior in high school, his mother was supportive of him enjoying high school and helped him have a prom proposal. While my mother had more determination to buy an Indian dress for weddings. Then I looked for a dress for prom, ended up buying a prom dress from amazon. (I like dresses but I want to get Indian dresses online too.) 

I never had a boyfriend, and it’s been so long since I had a crush. The last boy I liked was in 8th grade. It didn’t help me and my mom had a conversation about me not needing to move out until I’m married. I’m not even sure about getting married. I feel alone. When I hang out with my family in a big gathering, I feel awful. I want to have someone to talk to but there is no one I know I can trust. My uncle has 90 days to bring his wife to the U.S. I’m scared when that will happen. I want to have boundaries and stay away from them. Not forever but until I’m more mentally okay and strong. Right now I don’t feel comfortable around my family and I know no one is going to listen to me or respect that I want space from this situation. I know they will guilt trip me. But my uncle has other nieces and nephews to show to his new wife. (I have 20+ cousins) I have the right to feel comfortable around my family. 

And my family makes me feel like I am being dramatic. I don’t feel good about thinking about this. Like my uncle has been good to me since I was little. His ex-wife was also caring towards me. My family hates it, and I get the feeling too, but I sometimes miss the memories.  I don’t know how to feel about this. I also may take a break from wearing indian dresses or just desi style clothing in general. It is normal for my uncle to give money to buy desi style dresses or to buy desi style dresses. All of my uncles do this. But those girls I haven;t seen his new wife pictures, but I saw one of the pictures of girls he was considering. (the picture of the girl wasn’t his new wife) It just freaked me out. I feel guilty for being like this but I know I have the right to protect my well-being. I don’t know what to do, I don’t feel like anyone in my family truly understands how I feel.