My very difficult mom may call the police on my boyfriend (40 M) for trespassing, even though my dad said it was ok that bf help me move. What can I (34F) do? Need advice..

My boyfriend (40M) and I (34F) recently moved in together. I still had stuff at my parents place. Last time my bf was there, he screwed up. He got very very drunk. So my mom had the police issue my bf a trespass notice. This was back in February of this year. Since then, my boyfriend has gone to extensive inpatient treatment, is currently in outpatient support, and clean.

In my state: “a trespass notice is a written demand for someone to leave and not return to a property. It’s typically issued by the property owner or their agent and informs the individual that they are not allowed on the premises. Violating a trespass notice can lead to criminal charges and potential arrest.”

Last night, I got my dad’s verbal and text message (written permission) that it would be ok for both my boyfriend and I to go ahead and gather the last of my stuff this morning. Dad’s out of town on business, and he agreed that having my boyfriends help to carry heavy things plus having two cars to load things in, made sense. My dad asked me to go this morning between 10am-11am, because that’s usually when my mom is at church. He didnt want my mom to know as she is very critical, unforgiving, and judges harshly. Dad thought it would be easier if bf and I went there to grab stuff while she was gone.

At 10:15 we arrive to my parents place. At first glance, coast looked clear. Mom’s car wasn’t in driveway. Boyfriend and I start packing up my belongings, and then my mom, PLUS my brother, confront us. I attempted to call my dad immediately but he didn’t pick up.

I calmly told my mom that dad said it was ok to be here today to load my stuff up, and for my bf to help – and then after today, all of my stuff would be out of here, just as she wanted. She had this silent angry look on her face – starts mumbling something about how my bf is trespassing , gets her phone out, and attempts to take pictures of him in his car and get a picture of his license plate. I step in front of her phone camera to block her view and tell my bf to leave. He leaves.

My dad calls my mom. Suddenly she says “what do you mean “doing nothing wrong”?!?” and she starts fighting with my dad over the phone. My brother looks at me and asks how he can help. I tell him to not worry about it, that I will come back another day, as I’m not doing “this” – this stupid drama bullcrap. I start driving back home when my brother calls me and asks me to come back. He would help me pack up as much as possible into my car himself. And he did. And I was really grateful for that. He’s normally the type to be at moms defense but it looked like that he couldnt stand behind her reactions today. Her reactions were ridiculous.

My boyfriend is feeling rather anxious about getting hit with a trespassing violation, which can lead to charges and arrests.

Advice?

TL;DR: bf got a trespass notice from police months ago because parents didnt want him around as he was drunk. he’s clean and sober now/ post treatment, etc. today, dad gave my bf and i permission to help me move but asked that we don’t tell mom. mom showed up by surprise and ready to call cops on my bf. what do?