31F, I want to join a coed summer league for beach volleyball, problem is, I’ve never played and if I join as an individual I will walk in and not know anyone which triggers my anxiety.
I gain and lose weight all the time. Recently gaining 20lbs since last summer, now I’m 165lbs at 5’2. It does make me uncomfortable and embarrassed.
What should I do?
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You’re only not going to know people there for the very first time you walk in. Is a one time stint of being uncomfortable worth holding yourself back from doing something you want to do?
You should go play volleyball! Maybe reach out to them ahead of time, a lot of these groups do hangouts ahead of time.
Good people don’t care what you look like. I guarantee there are people of all shapes and sizes there.
Do it. You will get to know people there once you join. And in my experience, many people who join group activities are extroverted and social, so you will have an easy time making friends.
All bodies are beautiful, yours included. With that being said, I completely understand how you feel and empathize with you, I have been there for sure. But no one is going to summer beach volleyball to judge others for their bodies. Everyone will be in similar attire and everyone has something they are insecure about.
Absolute worst case scenario is that every person there is an asshole and you hate it. So you just don’t go back. What are the chances you are going to see any of them again? Slim to none. Take the chance!
Remember you might not be the only one that’s going to be new to it and you’re not the only one who’s going to be anxious about this new experience ☺️
You’re going to do great – do it scared if you have too
Fake it til you make it. Pretend to be confident. Push yourself to get out and do the things you want to do.