I’m overweight, as you can garner from the title. I’ve been trying to lose weight for years now, and while I have had some results, I am still technically clinically obese, though not morbidly.
My sister is also obese, but is closer to morbidly obese than I am. Yesterday, I went on Instagram and her profile popped up, so I decided to scroll through it since I haven’t seen her in almost 5 years and don’t really look at my family members’ social media. As I was scrolling, I came across one of her selfies and was hit with the realization that her face is my face. I had never realized just how similar we looked, but her selfie was the same face I see in the mirror everyday, and I’m horrified. I know it sounds awful, but my sister has always been the ugliest of the kids in my family, so realizing I look at all like her is not particularly pleasant.
I realized that one of the reasons we look so similar was because of our face shape, very round and pudgy. Seeing her and realizing how ugly I think she is and realizing how similar we look has given me extreme motivation to lose the weight and keep it off. I can’t do anything about our facial features without surgery, but hopefully by losing weight I will be able to think that we look different and won’t feel so awful about my appearance.
Anyway, I know that I’m an awful sister for saying so bluntly that I think my sister is actively ugly, but it’s true. And it’s not just her face, she also doesn’t take care of herself, has hair that’s been overdyed and is stringy and gross now, and recently got several face piercings (you can have your own opinion, but I think they’re ugly 99% of the time). I’m probably going to see her in just over a year, so I really need to lose the weight by then for fear that anyone will comment on how similar we look.
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Chat idk what to say to this
I mean go you, I guess.
I just realized I am my mother. Old and fat. I dont mind being old, it’s the goal, but I need to do something about the fat part. Don’t feel bad unless you told her, then YTA
now this is a confession
Take this to your grave.
Don’t say this to anyone else okay. You sound like super insecure and hater-y.
Premium confession, 10/10, no notes.
If I was your sister and I read this I would end it all lol
As the uglier fatter sister, yikes but I respect this as a confession. Maybe prioritize health over attractiveness. Also be kind because being pretty and thin may not be forever but kindness can be. Including kindness to yourself.
Well finally a post that is an actual confession.
It may be a controversial take but I believe it’s reasonable to use your family members as a gauge of your own health. They are living breathing “what if scenarios” in many cases, specially if they’re close relatives like your sister. Both as a positive or negative gauge… unless you use it to excuse your bad habits.
Personally y try to talk to my family about healthier habits all the time without trying to be snobby or “better than thou” or make comments about appearance or weight since those are a bit more sensitive topics.
We all think things that we mostly shouldn’t say to other people for fear of hurting their feelings.
Idk cut carbs, cut sugar, drink water, do some hiit. Get that sharp jawline that makes you feel like you’re prettier.
When suddenly your sister loses weight and becomes all glam, you’ll wonder if creeping on your insta was her impetus
Now this is a proper confession that can never be expressed out loud to a single soul.
Also, look into GLP-1 agonists.
Honestly, I feel like everyone with siblings has had the realization that you are/aren’t the unattractive one. No one ever talks about it because it just makes everyone feel awkward and it’s an awful conversation anyhow.
Frankly, I’m surprised it took you this long to realize how similar you look? You are siblings….
I hope you find compassion for yourself and your sister soon. That was an insane read and made me want to tell my sisters how much I love them. Yikes.
best confession i’ve seen in a while
You don’t t have to censor thoughts, it’s not the same as telling her directly to her face.
Honestly I think it’s good personal insight.
It’s okay to realize that. Just don’t repeat it.
I’m so glad I never had a sister.
I honestly wonder how kind all you guys were to each other growing up since it seems you’re not that close to your siblings if you didn’t even have any idea what your sister looked like currently.
Like were you guys supportive of each other?
Distant?
Fighting?
>my sister has always been the ugliest of the kids in my family….
This makes me think you guys weren’t close and likely all you siblings weren’t kind toward someone that all y’all refer to as the “ugly sibling”
and if your sister has dyied hair and facial piercings, I don’t think she isn’t taking care of her appearance, it’s just you don’t like the choices she made with her appearance and so criticize it.
I guess what I’m saying is, I wonder if your “ugly sister” is so insecure in her appearance/vain that she had to mentally tear someone else down before she could stop herself from overeating/find motivation to lose weight.
Fuck these comments gave me the best laugh I’ve had in a long time.
OP, whatever gets the train chuggin, you go for it!
But I’ll reiterate what other commenters have said, be kind to your sister and to yourself. It’s one thing to care about the way others take care of themselves and a completely separate matter when you’re fat shaming and hating on someone because of their weight.
I’ve been on both ends, being really huge and also being the petite sister. Whatever you change on the outside can never change what’s on the inside if you don’t make an active attempt at being kind to yourself and others.
But again these comments had me howling lmao
It’s been actual years since a post here made me drop my jaw holy shit
We get it, you hate your sister. Sheesh.
In my experience, self-hatred is a terrible motivator to lose weight. It’s just as easy to slide into “I’m ugly, it’s not worth going to gym” when it’s your thinking. It wasn’t until I started working in therapy in forgiving myself for past mistakes and loving who I am (or at least, not actively hating who I am) that I was able to find steady motivation to get healthy and lose weight.
But if it works for you, then good luck!
Losing weight has so many more benefits than becoming the more attractive one, but if it motivates you lol then press on, good luck!
Honestly, judging by your post your sister has not missed out on anything by not seeing you for five years and it might be in her best interests if you extend that for a further five. Your comments are shallow, incredibly judgemental and scream insecurity. Attractiveness fades, body sizes change. People will remember you for how you made them feel. A little kindness towards her and yourself would go a long way.
Seeing my little sister at her thinnest made me realize I needed to get off of drugs. She was also on them, but I couldn’t control her choices. We’re both in a better place now & are now down with the thickness, but we’ve looked back at photos of ourselves & we’re so happy to be on the other side.
Sometimes it takes your family to make you realize you need a change. I hope you get the change you’re hoping for, OP.
I’ve looked like my mom my whole life, she is a terrible person and I actually hate catching glimpses of myself in the mirror sometimes because of it. It’s also a great motivator for me to stay healthier, because when my face gets more rounded the similarity is worse. Ugly is not a consideration at all, it’s just an emotional jab, like continually bumping into an abuser.
> My sister has always been the ugliest of the kids in our family
Clearly not, since you realize you look just like her. You probably always looked just like her and believed differently because you wanted to feel superior.
How can one be actively ugly?😂😂😂
This was so interesting to read. Thank you for being so truthful and real. I think you have more than enough motivation to change. I’m sure you will look nothing like her by the time you see her.
My SO and I lost 100+ lbs collectively after we made an impromptu sex video. Sometimes you need to the gross jiggly truth to do something about it
Her sisters gonna post ‘my sisters wake up call Reddit post was my wake up call…’ LOL
Good news fam… the economy is here to help you with your weight loss journey!
I saw a picture of myself right after COVID and I didn’t look or feel attractive (and I would consider myself quite attractive) but with the weight going straight to my face and neck, it drowned out my features. Now I’m back to my early 20s weight and haven’t put anything back on. Very confident in myself…good luck on your weight loss journey.
I added to my skin routine because of my BABY sister’s newest picture. She looks older than our 70-year-old Mother. She lives in Florida, and I live in Hawaii. She is only in her 40s. Sometimes seeing how things can go, really puts things into perspective.
tbh i’m kind of hoping your sister drops the weight and you get even fatter
Shame is rarely a sustainable motivation, so look inward first and foremost. Fix your mind, then fix your diet, and then you’ll see change in your body.
Gettin my weight back in check for me was seein pudge around my stomach and bein deeply unsettled by it. Like didn’t want to wear a bathing suit or tight clothes levels of uncomfortable. A year and a half later and I’m back to bein a healthier weight. So yea it’s not bad per se but you can’t ever say this to another person who hasn’t done weight loss themselves or anyone in person lol. Just don’t ever hurt your sister’s feelings with this and we all do this. Reflecting ourselves onto others is a way we learn and align ourselves more with what we want….secretly.
good luck to you if this is your only motivation.
I will be using “actively ugly” an annoying amount going forward
I thought my friend wrote this 😂 yikes tho kinda wish she had. She used to talk mad crap about her sister going to college and gaining weight, and look who followed in her footsteps… I saw a pic of her sis recently and thought it was my friend, so I thought this might’ve been her on reddit lmao.
Wish you the best on your journey 🫶
Yikes. I would hate to have a sister like you. Oof. 😣
Self-hatred is not the motivator you think it is. Wishing you well on your journey.
Here you go, follow this to turn your life around. Give it to your sister too, nobody deserves any of this.
https://matt.might.net/articles/least-resistance-weight-loss/
I like this one
Finally the type of post this sub is meant for
This is “I need to go to therapy,” coded. This is scary internalized fatphobia territory that can lead to dangerous behaviors and severe body dysmorphia. Holding animosity towards someone can make them uglier, that’s understandable. Sharing features with people who suck can be really jarring. I’m sorry you’re feeling so negatively about your face, but I hope you come to peace with it.
10/10 confession, though. 👍
> I know that I’m an awful sister
Yup. And whatever your sister looks like on the outside, I’m doubting she’s this ugly on the inside. What an awful thing to literally go out of your way to think.
Man the projection is stroooooong with this one!
You’re ugly, babes but it’s not because of how you look.
This might be one of the most honest posts I have read. I used to scroll through social media and wonder if I looked as old and run down as my former classmates. Inspiration is inspiration no matter where it comes from. Good luck!
These are the confessions I joined this sub to read!!
Well you’ve gotten find motivation somehow right? Use this girl!!!
Damn! This is a legit confession.
“actively ugly”
Damn
This reminds me of the 1000lb sisters show where one of the sisters has the audacity to call the other one fat
Well, dam is all I have to say 😅
This feels like something you write as soon as you tell your sibling you have a reddit account and you know they’re going to look up your username when they get home in 2 hours.
This is just sad. Your body is not your worth. Same with your sister.
Damn. Not gonna lie, this one made me pretty sad.
I don’t think big automatically defaults to ugly. I’ve never thought that about others, & it’s sad knowing people would think that about me.
This was genuinely so mean. People are so awful sometimes.. Lose the weight because it’s good for your health, not out of spite of your sister. Gross.
Fat people usually have the most fatphobia because we’re told our whole lives fat is bad. This sounds like extreme fatphobia and projecting. Hope you can find peace with yourself someday, but hating other fat people is not the way.
I think this is exactly the type of thing you need to take to your therapist. Your self-hatred is really sabotaging you and your relationships.
This is a terrible thing to say. Get a fucking life.
Yikes
People like you make me wanna get fat. I don’t want anyone this vain sticking around me.
Something to consider – losing weight will age your face also.
go to therapy 🥰
dying at “actively ugly”
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Don’t create a weight loss goal based on someone else. Create a goal based on who YOU want and need to be.
You’ve got this!
“Actively ugly” as opposed to your everyday passively ugly lol
Maybe she has a great personality?
As an ugly person, being ugly isn’t the worst thing in the world.