My wife (28F) and I (31M) have been together for years, married for six. We’ve only ever been with each other, and I always thought our sex life was pretty good, but lately, I’m questioning if it’s enough for her.
The other night, we got a little drunk and started talking about fantasies. Out of the blue, she admitted she’s curious about me “sharing” her with another guy or a couple. She said it’s not that I’m doing anything wrong, but her friends’ stories about their experiences have her wondering if she’s missing something more… exciting. It stung a bit, honestly, like maybe I’m not hitting all the marks she needs.
We ended up roleplaying it that night with a dildo, and it was intense—she was really into it, and I got caught up in the moment too. Part of me thinks it was hot, but another part’s worried she’s craving something I can’t give her. Like, is this just a fun fantasy, or does she actually need more than what we’ve got?
Those talks with her friends seem to have her second-guessing what we have, and I’m starting to wonder if I’m falling short. Some of her friends even are in open relationships and seem to really enjoy it.
I would love to get some female perspective on this too.
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Polygamy never works if one person is monogamous first and foremost. Also gotta be honest with her if you guys open the relationship it’s not a one way street, the rules apply to both of you and it’s fair game for whatever needs you both have. It’s not worth the trouble to open a marriage up unless both of you are absolutely certain about it, and it’s not something that she’s thinking about because her friends are all doing it to. If she’s feeling left out or wants to destroy what you guys have because it’ll make her friendships easier, then you got several questions to ask yourself and then her.
Sounds like she’s gotten the “grass is greener” syndrome which is something I made up now but you get the point. I have seen it in my life where friends get into the head of someone and put things in their brains about how goooood their lifestyle is and why someone else should do it also.
Your wife is falling for the trap and if she doesn’t see it, she will be divorced wondering what happened.
Talk to her and express how you feel, like a serous conversation on what you do not like where things are going and why you don’t want them to happen. Take charge and don’t let them play out and by a bystander. It’s YOUR marriage and she’s being led astray by people selling dreams that will end in a nightmare for her.
You know how badly me and my wife wants to be each others only? If me and her had the choice to go back in time and remove all our exes and sexual partners, we both would instantly because we never were the type to worry about fucking other people, we always wanted what the other had from the very beginning, we just didn’t get together yet.