For the last 7 months, my wife has been talking to a boy from work. I trusted my wife with everything I’ve ever had, and I was absolutely floored when I found out the harsh reality. She is going to be 35, he is 22. We have a 9 and 8 year old together. She is in a full blown relationship with this kid, and won’t admit it. She’s denied it to save her integrity. However the truth has been uncovered as much as she won’t admit, and I worry she and my kids will be in harms way in no time.
How do I protect my children from this kid who is in no way ready to take on that kind of responsibility? He has severe anger issues. I’ve heard about his blowups at school on other staff, and even treated my wife like shit at times. She is completely blinded by the fact this is just a game for him, and she’s throwing away our marriage for a little bit of fun and a whole lot of hurt where she will be left with nothing in the end. I’ve tried to forgive my wife for the last 3 weeks, she’s claimed she has done nothing wrong, but I know the truth and it will never be admitted. Only her actions in short time will have people realizing what she’s been doing. I just don’t want my kids caught in the crossfire. What advice can I give them to protect them but also not scare or harm them in any way mentally about the signs to look for before something serious happens?
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You need to see a brief as soon as possible
you need a lawyer fast
Get a lawyer asap be like soon like now soon
Lawyer and therapist.
Mate log off and run to a good lawyer. These sort of stuff are beyond a subreddit.
Good luck.
Your wife is having some sort of mid life crisis and probably needs some mental help. There are some serious issues she needs to address. Destroying your entire life over a fantasy…….
Talk to a lawyer IMMEDIATELY. See if anything can be done to protect your kids. It’s so much more complicated to leave when you have kids, and I understand it’s not a simple “run the other way” scenario. I’m sorry for saying this so bluntly but if your wife is planning on having this 22 year old around the kids than she’s an idiot.
She chose to have kids and it’s her responsibility to protect them from any threat or perceived threat, including crazy boyfriend. I really hope the lawyer can offer some advice and maybe you can get custody of the kids.
Talk to the kids about how mommy & daddy might be going apart and explain to them it has nothing to do with them. I would kind of frame it that people fall in love and get married but sometimes they fight and don’t get along. I would keep it simple. Maybe don’t go into the details just yet. My kid is a baby so don’t know what age kids get phones now days… so if they don’t have one buy them each a cell phone and explain to them that they can call you at any time and if they ever see someone violent or feel unsafe to call the emergency number it’s 911 where I live.
Honestly speaking, if my husband decided to have an affair with a women that much younger than him I would want out. Speaks a lot about someone’s character and level of love / respect for you. However, with kids it’s complicated so I guess take your time call a lawyer and probably a therapist for yourself and the kids to ease the transition
lawyer first. Hoes gonna hoe…..not much you can do about it unfortunately….