This is fresh, as in just happened like 30 minutes ago and just wanted to vent really. My wife(26F) just told me(25M) in exact words, “I would rather you die than my dog, because I know I’ll see you in heaven, but I don’t know if I’ll see the dog in heaven, and I want as much time with her as possible.”
She said this without thinking very hard at all, and not in a joking manner, almost just as a passing comment. Sooooo yeah. I’ve been 3 weeks sober and don’t plan to break that, but damn I think that would drive any man to drink.
OH ALSO, we’ve been together for 9 years, married for 4. OH, and I’m at work. She texted that to me randomly.
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Jfc lol
Context…you mentioned being 3 weeks sober. How long were you drinking before that?
That’s harsh 😕 I’m so sorry, OP. Hugs 🫂
Technically, according to the Bible, when two partners get married, the saying always goes “till death do us part“ which signifies the prophecies of the separation of flesh when you enter heaven and the separation of mine, which gets wiped clean, and you will not remember your partner. Just food for thought but I hope this helps
Just reply “me too”
I legit have no idea how to respond to this, have a nice day 🫡
Did she realize the insensitive nature of what she said/did you call her out on it yet? Also, does she have adhd? Sometimes, to the people I love, I say something SO stupid because I didn’t think of how it could come out bad, but I had no bad intentions. Once, to my then partner, who was excited about possibly getting a job that a friend recommended them for, I told them “this is so amazing, but it’s not a guarantee because they may not like you.” I CANT BELIEVE I SAID THAT looking back, my intention was to not set a high expectation for something that may not happen, as to not get disappointed if it didn’t work out. Obviously I was an idiot regardless. I say this not to excuse her words at all, but to provide some solace that it most likely wasn’t meant to sound rude or gutting, and that she didn’t think hard enough about the words she used in her message
Positive light- she loves you so much that she wants to be with you both on earth and in heaven. Also, she loves her loyal, faithful and loving dog who has been there for her while you have not been at your best but now you are finding your footing and on the road to recovery. Don’t be angry or jealous of your family dog; instead, be happy that your wife had a loving being to relieve her stress when you were not at your best.
Side note: I think God has his angels disguised in dog suits to love we imperfect humans and also to let us in at the Pearly Gates or not based on their observations of our behavior.
Ignore it
Maybe she is seriously mad at you about something you did that you are not aware of? Even if that is the case though that is a really awful thing to say. This type of comment is so strange to me and I feel that only an emotionally disturbed person would say something like this. If you know you are a good guy and have done nothing to deserve such a dark comment like this, then I would be really concerned about this. I’m sure many of us on here own pets and are animal lovers, but I highly doubt that anyone would put the value of their pet over the value of their loved human people. Big red flag for me.
As a non-believer, that’s so deeply not ok with me
Jeez. Confront her about it.
Did she literally never see All Dogs Go To Heaven?
That’s not an excuse to consider falling off the wagon. If that upsets you then communicate that with her on how it made you feel.
But if the only constant thing she has had as her emotional support while dealing with an alcoholic parter, I kind of get it.
What’s wrong with that? I am married 16 years with two kids and the love of my life was a dog
I guess I understand her logic there.