One day a couple police showed up to my front door. They said they were there to do a wellness check. My sister-in-law called one in on my wife, my wife wouldn’t tell them what was going on. So she just left with them in her bathrobe and bonnet. I had to pick her up and take her back to her car. (Home) where she packed a few very impractical pieces of clothing and disappeared. I didn’t hear from her for quite some time. I filed for divorce. That was the first time I heard from her when she got served. She didn’t think I’d ever leave her. I still don’t know what’s going on at this point. I offered $10,000 6 months of rent and to keep her jeep. But radio silence; nothing. so I had to hire of a lawyer and the day that court was scheduled, I offered her five grand cash. She refused, we went into that courtroom and the judge didn’t order me to pay her anything although I let her have the Jeep because I wanted her to have something. (we signed a prenuptial agreement before we got married that we keep what we make ) A few weeks later, I want her to come get all her stuff out of my house and give an explanation if she wants. This is how the explanation went:
She took me upstairs to the bathroom underneath the sink. There was a notepad, on that notepad was, “ what I’m about to tell you could get both of us killed do you wanna hear more yes or no?”
I placate her and kept talking on the notepad with her for a little bit, but long story short she thinks the government is after her there’s bugs in the walls. nowhere safe and that’s why she left me. Something I didn’t know until my therapist helped me put it together. Was instead of telling that story to people she was telling them that I was an evil man that I abused her and all this stuff that wasn’t true. She used to be such a sweet innocent girl. My dream girl, beautiful and love to watch me play video games. But after she hit 30 things went downhill really bad mentally. I don’t even know what to do with myself anymore. I’m in therapy talking to a psychiatrist on medication. I just thought I’d share with Reddit. I spend a lot of time on here. It’s like she died in a way. It her specter will haunt me forever. Any advice?
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I don’t have any advice, but I just wanted to say I’m sorry for what you’re going through. It’s ok to grieve that marriage and remember it’s not your fault! Take time to grieve and focus on your mental health.
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I’m so sorry this has happened. Sadly, if someone is going to develop schizophrenia, the onset is often in one’s late 20s to early 30s. All I can say is keep working with your therapist.
People in a psychotic episodes can have problems remembering them. She might not have remembered why she left you, or what she told you. So talking to her friends and family the only reason she could come up with is that you must have done something to her.
Just know, it’s not your fault. She needs help that you can’t provide.
Do you know she was schizophrenic when you filed? Was she officially diagnosed?
I’m sorry to hear that. It seems there’s not much you can do. You did what you could.
Im so sorry for what you’re going through