I can seeing how this outlook is useful to teach children
But for a full fledged, independent adult who is recently married, it just feels like there should be some things outside of major financial decisions/ marital concerns that I shouldn’t need to constantly communicate.
Not in a diabolical or deceitful manner, but i still have my own life outside of what we share, and it’s tough remembering to communicate everything . I’m still getting used to the balance of autonomy/marital life, and some things just shouldn’t concern my wife.
Does anyone agree with my wife’s perspective?
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This is really dependent on what you didn’t tell her.
But in general, yes, lying by omission is still lying.
Does she want to like, know everything about your friendships or what? All marriages are different but I think it’s acceptable to not share every little life detail with your partner.
What did you not tell your wife?
In general not necessarily, but your ambiguity in the description doing a lot of work here — what sort of things are you thinking that shouldn’t concern her?
Like if you forgot to tell her you had a slice of pizza at 2:00 so aren’t hungry for dinner yet, whatever.
If you forgot to tell her that you dropped a couple thousand on a new dirt bike or got laid off — yeah, not sharing something so big is deceptive.
Lies of omission versus commission. If you ask a priest, lawyer and politician, you’ll get three different answers on this.
I certainly think there are moments where lies of omission are wrong, but no I don’t think it’s a fair blanket statement to call them equivalent.
Lying means that you’re purposely leading someone to believe something other than the truth. You can do this by omitting important information that would otherwise let them know the truth. It is called lying by omission.
She is accusing you of a “lie by omission.”
The key here is intent. If your intent is to deceive her into thinking something false, then yes it’s unethical.
But hell I can’t remember all the things that happen to me, and it’s not in my nature to chat about inconsequential trivialities. I’m not “lying by omission” I’m just not a talker.
If I am out working and I stop at a restaurant to eat and I don’t mention where I ate, I don’t think it is a lie.
Honestly, I could do with way less communication. If my wife asks me something like “Do you have the tickets” and I hold up the actual tickets in front of her face but I do not verbally say anything then she will keep asking until I say I have them. Apparently saying I have them is somehow more evidence of having them than showing them and it can be used against me later in wife court.
My mother says this is a lie: “Tomorrow I will mow the lawn.” It rains the next day so you cannot cut the grass in the rain. You have now lied about mowing the lawn.
Feel like I’m back in Sunday school getting lectured about sins of commission vs sins of omission.
It’s not far off. But It depends. To your wife?
My advice is that, to her, it should feel as if you tell her everything she would ever want to know. Good, bad, ugly. Be honest, you love her, and you want her to empathize with you.
But you can keep stuff to yourself that does not impact your relationship or her experience. Extra details, “inside thoughts”, etc.
As for other people. They don’t have a right to know everything. A lie of omission is still a lie, but you have very few obligations to be fully transparent to others in this world. That being said, every action or inaction has consequences, and you need to be prepared for the blowback of yours.
Yeah, a lot of people do share your wife’s perspective – that leaving something out, especially if it would change how the other person feels or acts, can be as bad as lying. It’s often tied to values around transparency, trust, and emotional safety. So from that angle, it’s not about control, but about making sure the other person isn’t left in the dark in ways that matter to them.
But you’re not wrong either. In adult relationships, there’s got to be space for individual autonomy. Not everything is a “report-worthy” event, and expecting full disclosure about every little thing can feel suffocating. Part of being married is figuring out where the line is between shared life and personal space.
Morally, omission becomes sketchy when the intent is to avoid consequences or manipulate perception. But if it’s just about mental bandwidth or keeping some healthy independence, that’s not deception – it’s being human.
The key is finding a balance together. If something matters to her, maybe it’s worth sharing even if it feels small to you. And if something feels like it’s just yours, talk about that boundary too. Communication isn’t just about facts – it’s about values.
It’s one of those gray areas where intent really matters. Along with impact. Did you not tell her something trivial because in your mind it didn’t matter enough to mention? Not lying, she doesn’t need to know and probably wouldn’t care that you had mustard instead of mayonnaise on your sandwich at lunch today.
Did you make a decision that affects both of you without telling her? That’s more concerning, if you are “hiding” that you changed jobs, won or lost a lot of money, suddenly have additional responsibilities that will impact your ability to contribute around the house, etc.
Are you legitimately trying to hide something because you are worried about how she would react? That’s much closer to a lie, it’s basically a lie by omission, which can be incredibly damaging to your credibility with your partner and your relationship as a whole.
There’s a spectrum involved that makes it difficult to say whether you are in the right or wrong without details.
I can see instances where you wouldn’t say anything. Not being sure of what actually happened, something trivial (even if that’s just your opinion), etc.
The thing is, you should be talking to her about this, not some social media site. And it REALLY depends on what you didn’t say or talk about.
Maybe if you want real advice here you’d give a little more color on what happened.
Look you need to consider what she thinks here. If you’re not doing something out of a place of love and respect nothing good will come of it. If you’re just not mentioning something that you think is trivial, is it trivial to her? Talk to her.
Everything about you, about your life, about the details of your day actually DOES concern her. Share it.
P.S. the sex after talking over things like this is good. Confirming your connection, keeping that connection strong, always ends well, give it a try 😉
You’re married now. That means that the only secrets you should be keeping from her are centered around Xmas and Bdays. That doesn’t mean that you need to give her a daily account of everything you do – because no one cares that you ate a cheeseburger for lunch. However, if there’s something that you KNOW she’d care about that you simply “forget” to tell her? Yeah, you’re a piece of shit.
Did you not tell her something that objectively she had the right to know, because you were worried about the consequences?
It depends on what it is. Sometimes you have to withhold something or tell a small lie for the sake of a relationship. The phrase “i think your sister is pretty.” Or “yiu have put on a little weight recently.” Will not leave my mouth no matter what circumstances nat prompt it.
I think most psychologically normal people know if something they are doing is something that they would be better off telling their wife about, if only to keep their partner’s trust in them refreshed.
Trust has “capital” in much the same way one has “political capital” with their boss or friends. For example, you can only ask your boss or friends so many times for a favor before they start to feeling being used if you aren’t regularly reciprocating, right?
In the same sense, I see trust as something that needs to be maintained. I go out by myself drinking fairly often, and I know my wife trusts me completely, but I still tell her anytime I happened to have chats with people at the bar, especially if they are women. These are all purely innocent and friendly conversations.
Now, my wife is the type who would probably even let me go out for drinks with a female friend, but let’s assume I started doing this… every week. Even assuming I did nothing improper and everything remained at the level of friendship, now let’s pretend I started going out every other night with a specific female friend to drink and started coming home at 3:00 AM from these hangouts frequently.
Even for my trusting wife, I think it is easy to imagine that over time, probably not even a lot of time, the trust she has in me would start to get tested mightily. Could you blame her? Even if you knew I was doing nothing improper? Would this new behavior be worth the depletion of the trust I have now? Probably not.
I used an obvious example here, but I think it is the same for lies by omission and other general lack of transparency. You signed up for caring about and taking care of your wife, and that includes her mental health. Generally, ask yourself “if my wife found out I was doing this from someone else, would she be upset, or would it unnecessarily test her trust in me?” If the answer is yes, tell your wife.
Yup. You need to “sync up” in what is important to her to know & vice versa.
“Diabolical and deceitful” are two words doing some real heavy lifting homie.
It’s called lie through omission. It’s the same as other lies in the respect that we all have our own line to judge severity/forgivable-ness of any given example.
IMO a pretty good metric is “would you wanna know this? How pissed would you be if it was withheld from you intentionally?”
If the omission changes the context of the truth in a way that matters, I would consider it lying.
“I got groceries today. Milk, bread, eggs.” Omitting that I got a dozen other items is an unimportant omission that changes none of the other facts stated, no lie. Omitting that I robbed the grocery store is enough of a change in context that leaving that part of the errand out could be considered a lie.
“Lie by omission” sure it’s a very real thing. But it’s different than just not remembering to tell someone about some aspect of your day. Not sure what your situation is here, obviously. But if she feels like you’re withholding meaningful parts of your life from here, you either are doing that and you should stop or there’s some sort of trust issue between the two of you that you need to just address head on and beat it.
No. The most accepted and general definition of telling a lie is ‘making a false statement with the intention to deceive’ So, by definition, not making any statement is not lying.
It may not be a great thing and some may not like it but just cause somebody doesn’t like it, the definitions won’t change as people please.
It’s called a lie by omission.
You can see it everywhere. But if it’s something you should tell someone and you intentionally leave it out, you’re lying..
Imagine you have an ex girlfriend and you know your wife doesn’t want you to hang out with that person. You go out to a bar with her and some other friends. Your wife asks who you were with, and you say “Oh, I was with Brad and some friends at the bar.” You’re lying by omission. There is info you know she wants to know and you’re leaving it out on purpose in order to deceive her. That’s a lie by omission.
But if it’s not something you know she would want to know, it’s not a lie by omission. You leave out a million things because most aren’t relevant. But if you’re purposefully leaving something out that you know your partner would want/need to know, you’re being deceitful.
This post itself is possibly a great demonstration of the very thing it’s about since there are presumably several specific examples you could have given but decided not to include. That could be lying by omission. Could you be more specific about the kind of things you haven’t shared with your spouse which have caused her to feel lied to?
It depends whether there is an obligation to disclose in the particular circumstances.
I didn’t tell Reddit what I had for breakfast this morning. I didn’t lie to Reddit about what I had for breakfast today. I had no obligation to disclose.
If you ask me how much money I have in my pocket, and I say five dollars, but actually I have twenty, I have omitted the fifteen. That’s lying by omission. Even though it’s true that there is five dollars in my pocket.
If I buy medical insurance without disclosing all my medical conditions, the policy will be void, because, in that situation, I have an obligation to disclose.
I’m just wondering what you didn’t tell her. I feel like you left that pretty crucial detail out for a reason, lol.
Having activities separate from those with your wife are fine. There should not be problem sharing that info with her.
“Hey, babe. Friday I’m not available. I going to x with y.” Goes a long way.
If something is being left out to hide anything…you are lying.
Without having some secrets a person’s personhood will suffer somewhat! Stay strong;!
In the same way that there are scales of ‘telling a lie’, there are likewise scales of ‘lie by omission’.
If it is something serious that’s just as bad.
The sentence “some things shouldn’t concern my wife” is, imo, one you should put some thought into. There are truly inconsequential things but in general you’re sharing your life when you’re married and you should reflect on why you only are talking about things you feel are a concern for her.
Personally I think that’s BS. I mean, let’s think about this logically: not telling someone something comprises an almost infinite amount of my communication. That’s just by definition. On any given day I talk to various people, take different busses, go to different bars and restaurants, sometimes I like to clock out early to go play pinball, I might drink some beer at a bar, or do some drugs, I might deal with some bureaucracy …. what I’m saying is “things you don’t say” is an infinite set of information.
Should you tell your wife things that you have agreed on? That you KNOW are important to the both of you? YES! Me having a beer after work is just a thing I like to do, but if I had six years of sobriety in AA suddenly having a beer after work would be an huge paradigm shift and sign that I’m psychologically unwell.
See where I’m coming from?
Yes it’s called Lying By Omission
If you are honest and open, not withholding information or details, I wouldn’t worry about it.
It’s more about mutual respect. If you omitted to tell them something you know THEY wanted to be aware of, they will feel disrespected, betrayed (,lied to).
You omitted telling us what you didn’t tell her! What in the world! I’m thinking “gambled away my 401k” or “I lost my job last month and I just leave and return at the same time 5 days a week”.
We all lie to some extent. Be it omission, white lie or blatant lie. All are perfectly fine or deceitful depending on context. It might be to spare someone’s feelings, just not relevant to bother bringing up, or just none of their business.
There also shouldn’t be expectation put on recalling every minute of your life to another, even your spouse, especially from your past. If you asked her how many guys she’s kissed before you and she forgets about one kid when she was 12, that’s not a lie. If it was your best friend yesterday and she leaves that out, yeah, that’s a big lie.
No.
It sounds like you’ve been caught being dishonest and now you’re looking for other people to tell you it’s normal.
God she sounds annoying
It’s too black and white of an opinion really. Human beings need to use a little nuance to determine what someone needs or doesn’t need to know, or what is worth or isn’t worth telling.
The context matters. If you tell your wife that you had poker night with your buddies and you don’t mention that Steve showed up, you aren’t lying. If you tell your wife that you had poker night with your buddies and you don’t mention that you and your buddies all chipped in for a stripper, you are lying.
There isn’t any strict rule (that is sort of why the field of moral philosophy exist, because reasonable people can disagree about whether something is right or wrong), but the easiest way to think through this is to use empathy: would you wife be upset if she knew that you withheld this piece of information from her? You don’t need to proactively disclose everything in your life, but I do recommend that you actively share information that your wife would want to know.
Look up lies of omission and lies of commission. You might also want to get familiar with the idea of paltering (“the active use of selective truthful statements to mislead”). From the lack of context in your post, it seems like you should be cognizant of these things.
I don’t think you understand the situation you are in. Before getting into that, I want to share one of my experience. There was this guy in our group who neither agreed or disagreed whenever he actually disagreed. We fell for it for the first few times. Nobody trusted him afterwards.
Although our situation is difference, the outcome is same. She would lose trust in you if you keep doing what you are doing. That in and of itself, is devastating in a marriage. On top of that, finance is #1 reason for divorce. Statistically speaking, your marriage won’t last long.
what sorta thing is being not-told about?
that matters a lot.
“still have my own life outside of what we share” seems like a dangerous path to be emphasizing when describing the relationship as “recently married”.
and what do you mean “some things shouldn’t concern my wife”?
Omission with the intent to decieve is obviously where the line is drawn.
No reasonable person expects a 24/7 accounting of everything that happens, but it is reasonable to expect secretive shit to be limited to their own birthday gifts, surprise visits by prodigals, and other innocuous things like that.
A lie of omission is, in fact, still a lie.
No I don’t 100% agree with her perspective, but there are situations where I can see that being true. If you are suppose to be somewhere and you’re not and she’s looking for you, that can be a problem. If you are saving for a new house and decide to drop a few grand from savings to do/buy something and not tell her, that can be a problem. Things that are of higher importance that directly affect her, you should probably tell her.
Now other things, like your mom not liking the way your wife cooks or your parents telling you they don’t like your inlaws, that’s something that doesn’t need to be said to her. That’s not highly important or directly affecting her.
To tell each other what’s going on 100% of the time, you may as well walk around with a wife cam on your shoulder so she can see and hear everything you do and say. It’s not practical.
As others have said “lying by omission” is a thing. But that usually implies you knew something and purposely chose not to tell someone. (because you would gain some advantage by them NOT knowing that thing).
In an adult relationship, its kind of expected that you care about the other person,.. and you learn information, you will assess that information and prioritize passing along any information you realize would be important to know.
You don’t have to communicate everything. If she’s upset it’s because she’s insecure.
If it’s substantial to the conversation and you intentionally leave it out, that’s an issue.
Leaving out details because they don’t matter is not lying as long as what you’re not saying would have no negative effects on someone if they knew about it.
You are a separate human being with autonomy, living your own life. If you’re running errands all day and want to come home and just tell your wife you were running errands leave it at that because you don’t feel like reliving every mundane detail of your life then that’s totally fine.
If I stop for lunch somewhere and then just go about my day, I probably wouldn’t even remember to include that as part of my day if my wife asked. It just doesn’t matter.
My wife and I don’t share everything we do all the time because after 15 years together, some shit just doesn’t matter to the other and is a waste of energy to even try to remember.
I 100% agree with you. Anyone who doesn’t is way out of touch.
Being held to the standard of communicating everything you have going on at all times is unreasonable, and calling it lying is ridiculous.
Yes, it is lie by omission
This post feels like you’re artfully dancing around saying something to the point that I felt frustrated reading it, and I imagine that might be how your wife feels as well if this is how you typically communicate. It feels like you’re intentionally wording this as to avoid saying something incriminating.
Lying is lying. Hiding something is hiding something. Both break trust so I can see how they can be perceived in the same manner.
Yeah I think purposely ommitting something is considered lying.
Agree to disagree.
Yeah, you are not allowed to have thoughts that she doesn’t know about, sounds perfectly reasonable to me.
Alot of people think this and alot of people disagree about whether this is a thing. And somehow they always marry each other.
Lying by omission presumes intent to deceive. But in reality you probably weren’t thinking about it and it never crossed your mind to inform her.
Especially if she didn’t ask, or if it wasnt a big deal to you.
She needs to work on herself. Not all omissions are lies. Not all omissions are important. She needs to have a conversation about her fears and concerns regarding whatever it is you are omitting.
It’s okay for you to set some boundaries and make some compromises. Tell her what you are willing to share before telling her the things you don’t think are necessary. That way she knows you’re not just doing this to be hurtful and that you’re willing to acknowledge some of her concerns.
Op, what you’re looking for is called “a lie by omission.”
I’ve heard what your wife is describing as a “lie of omission”. I believe there are definitely circumstances where that is fair and there are circumstances where it’s not. I’ll give some examples of each:
Lies of Omission – Hiding infidelity, hiding drug habit, hiding a dangerous secret about your child, hiding money issues from a spouse
Not Lies of Omission – Not sharing salary information with co-workers, not disclosing a business or military secret, not sharing every detail of your life before you met your spouse/partner, hiding a health issue from co-workers, being in the closet sexually
Lol that’s her sneaky way probably to force you to share what you don’t want to and or blame you if you don’t. Aka lack of boundaries.
That’s assuming it’s not lying by omission for a bad reason
It depends on the situation. Does your lack of volunteering certain information put lives at risk? If not, then no. Generally, if I don’t have a problem with someone or it’s a stranger asking something like directions, there’s no reason not to give all relevant information.
It’s self-evidently not the same and I find the moralizing heavy handed.
Then again, I pretty much tell my wife everything, so whatever I don’t mention is deeply trivial.
What you keeping from your wife, OP?
Withholding facts is a lie of omission or as a British politician once described it, “being economical with the truth”. If you choose to withhold some information from someone, because you know they won’t like what they hear, then it’s definitely deceptive.
If your wife is at all insecure, she may regard you withholding information as an attempt to hide something bad from her. It’s best to err on the side of caution and tell her stuff that you think she might be upset about if she found out you chose not to tell her.
What things “shouldn’t concern [your] wife?”
Yeah, that’s called a lie of omission.
And you don’t have your own life. You’re married. There’s no longer you and her, just we.
There is no right answer here because it depend son the people a d the couple.
Some people are “we are 1 person” now kind of people.
Other people are absolutely “there is mine. There is yours. There is ours” people.
You have to figure out what both of you sre and how to reconcile it
Its called a lie of omission.
It is a form of lying. It’s not as bad as directly lying. But it is deceitful.
In my vision of a marriage, people do need privacy. It’s important to occasionally overlook some level of lying because that’s the basis of trust. You sense your partner is holding something back but you trust them to handle it. But I think it’s also good to set some hard thresholds of “No we need to tell each other these types of things”. Like credit cards exceed this amount, tell me.
I think that it isn’t quite lying, but rather lying by omission.. either way it’s dishonest behavior if it is done with the intent to hide something.
A lie by omission is a lie. However If I’m sad and I don’t tell you I’m not lying to you.
I have so much stuff I want to tell people that other people tell me but the specific people in question just like the other people have to say about the opposite, but I want them to continue this cuz its fun listening and knowing.
It’s called a lie of omission. Related but not always the same. There are whole books in the field of ethics on this topic.
No, because a lie is misleading.
If you tell the police the suspect went to the right, and he went to the left – it is a lie. An intentional choice to mislead someone = you play against them.
If you saw it, but choose not to tell them – it is not a lie, it is your choice not to tell someone a piece of information (maybe you know that he is innocent and all of this is unfair). You don’t change their world in the wrong direction. They still have a chance to know the info from others. You just choose not participate in this. It is not a bad thing, it depends on a case.
“Choose not doing something” and “choose doing wrong thing” are completely different stories.
Marrying someone means appreciating the importance of sharing the good and the bad in life.
I bet getting hit by a surprise $3k tax bill sucks. Sharing it with her would show her you count on her when you are in a shitty situation.
The fact that you had the money to pay, or that it was “your money” does not change the fact that you are not emotionally connected to her.
It’s called a lie by omission.
You don’t need to make sure she knows everything, “I found a penny” doesn’t matter. You should let her know the stuff that concerns her, or matters to her.
You can usually tell the difference easily, an example clue that you’re not telling her things that you should have would be you making this post.
If you value your marriage, don’t keep secrets. And also this is not the time for malicious compliance and trying to tell her every little thing you can think of.
In principle I agree but like in life…everything in moderation!
Not everything in life is worth “making a Federal Case about”. If you are deceiving someone by leaving out details or if you feel like you are sneaking around by not telling them because you think they might get upset, you are lying.
This is the kind of thing a person should know instinctively.
Not necessarily, but it can definitely be manipulation and a maladaptive coping strategy. It’s like stonewalling.
Toxic feminist cultural viewpoint. The proposition is preposterous.
Depends what it is.. if I’m omitting to tell someone something like what I watched on TV then no it’s absolutely not wrong at all, if I’m omitting to tell her that while she was at work that I was banging some other girl, then yes that is as bad as lying, it’s not the same as lying no but it’s just as bad
I’m a mental health nurse by profession and one of the fundamental things we get taught when training is that acts of omission (where you’ve made a decision not to do something) is absolutely potentially as bad as doing the wrong thing and you should be held accountable for either
Obviously that depends on what you’re omitting as well.. I’d say in relationships, if it’s withholding information that the other person would absolutely want to know, then yeah it’s bad
You can “lie by omission” but you know when you’re doing it.
Lies of omission are a thing but that doesn’t mean you need to remember every single thing.
If something happens and you feel some guilt or such so don’t tell them that’s lying. If you don’t tell them about Susan’s new hair stylist that’s normal.
Your motives are typically what can make omission lying.
Keeping a secret bank account from your wife is a lie by omission. She is completely in the right here.
“Deception by omission” is an ethical paradox. It’s highly subjective as to whether it’s indeed a lie.
50M here, married 25 years. The secret to a successful marriage is never to lie and make sure your spouse isn’t deceived (which also includes not hiding pertinent facts) but on the flip side “good communication” doesn’t mean they need to know every last thought you have. And sometimes keeping it to yourself is also valuable…eventually something she will do/want/say will strike you as monumentally stupid but it’s effects will be minor. It’s just something your spouse will do that you think is dumb but no harm will come of it. When this happens you need to think “is this is hill I want to die on today?” And you realize “no…no it’s not” and you keep your mouth shut.
But let’s say it’s a case where your spouse remaining ignorant or something could cause harm. Like family, or financially. Or if the neighbor lady tries to seduce you (you better get out in front of that kind of thing!). Anyway whatever it is, you know this thing, and by telling them you could ward off something negative…for them, for both of you, for your marriage. In that case not disclosing is a form of lying. It’s more a “sin of omission” than the outright wrong of lying, a “sin of commission”.
So my advice is that your wife is right about the bigger things, but for minor and harmless things more communication doesn’t always help. Everyone has a right to keep their own counsel about minor matters.
If it’s something they would want or need to know, then yes.
My ex hid she was never going to live longterm where we were. Wish she’d have fuckin said that before wasting years of my life.
It’s a lie of omission but some things should just be left unsaid. For example, if you saw another woman who was attractive, should you just blurt it out to your wife? Of course not. But some things are more serious and do need to be said. This is where you should use your best judgement to determine what and what shouldn’t be said and also how to convey those things tactfully.
https://rationalwiki.org/wiki/Lying_by_omission
Situationally dependent. There are some things that must be shared if they impact or could impact your partner. Finances, the existence of a crazy ex, a kid that you know about but never see, if your job is possibly in jeopardy.
But just because you know something doesn’t mean it’s any of your partner’s business. My friend confides something in me, it stays with me because it doesn’t impact my partner and it was communicated in confidence. We also aren’t obligated to share every thought that goes through our heads.
Yes, pretty much. It’s called a lie of ommission. Only genuinely oblivious people can get away with that bs.
But, even then, that gets old real quick. Because any adult is far too aware to just let that surprise them. Then, they’ll use semantics to childishly justify their behavior.
Yeah it’s a lie by omission. Your wife needs to have all the information available to make informed decisions. In this case any large financial transactions need to be cleared ahead of time. I suppose you could have separate finances but in the end it all gets pooled anyway. If you aren’t willing to have that kind of trust why are you even married? Your wife is gonna be wondering what else you are hiding.
Lying by omission is a thing. If you’re trying to hide something from your wife – then it’s a lie. For example, not mentioning that you went out to eat is no big deal. Not mentioning that you went out to eat because you know she’ll be upset is a lie.
It’s lying through omission. It’s a tactic that public figures, politicians and our media uses a lot to push their own agenda/propaganda. It’s also a easy way for people to feign ignorance and say they’re lying because “they don’t know about it”. But yes, it’s lying
It’s called a lie of omission
I think a 4 figure bill is probably a conversation, it has to be paid either way. It’s taxes, not like you did something wrong.
Now, if you didn’t want to have a conversation because she’s an over reactionary narcissist gaslighting sociopathic Antichrist then that’s a different conversation, with legal representation.
Many people think lying by omission is a thing, indeed.
I don’t think so.
That being said, context is very important here. If you didn’t tell her you had a child, or a 30k USD debt for example, it’s a real shitty thing to do. If you didn’t tell her that you actually don’t like peanut butter… It’s less of a problem.
For brevity, sure, saying everything would be inefficient. You shouldn’t fear telling her anything, though
Obviously…..oh my god did I forget to tell you I won the lottery last week? That wasn’t a lie just something I decided not to talk about..no come on! You know it’s a lie!