I am 19 and my younger brother is 12. We have always had a close relationship as I practically raised him due to my mother working 2 jobs and his father being out of the picture.
Yesterday me, my boyfriend, and my brother were playing minecraft in my room. I was wearing a night dress as it was late and I had already gotten ready for bed. He kept leaning over and laying on the bed to “stretch” and then he stare at me. I didn’t notice at first or else I would’ve said something sooner, but then I finally caught him staring at my chest area. I sent him out of the room and told my boyfriend about what just happened. He handed me the blanket and put it over my shoulders so my chest area was no longer exposed.
We allowed my brother to come back to room, basically shrugging it off. When he sat back down on my bed, he pulled the blanket to cover up with, exposing my chest. I pulled the blanket back up to cover myself once again and told him to stop pulling on the blanket. He then stretched one more time and started squeezing my foot. That was my last straw. I yelled at him to stop touching me and he made an excuse that he was just “stretching” once again. I told him he didn’t need to touch me to stretch then kicked him out of my room.
I don’t know what to do. If I bring it up to my mom, I know she’ll pull the “he’s just at that age” card and continue on like nothing ever happened.
It makes me uncomfortable and I’m unsure what to do.
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Communicate to him if a behavior feels uncomfortable to you. Have very healthy boundaries around your body and privacy. Teach him to respect that and your parents need to have your back.
He is at a curious age and learning how to treat women. If the behavior escalates in anyway, I would have a conversation with your parents.
I mean, your mom would be correct, he is at that age.
And when they get to that age, they need someone to talk to them openly, to let them know what is and isn’t appropriate.
I can understand and could feel your uncomfortable with that incident but that’s not the way to teach him he may get over attracted.
You are his elder sister make him explain what’s puberty is and deal with it maturely as at this age his hormone are at changing stage so it’s natural but deal with thing gently and with maturity try to explain him he is now grown up its not right on his part to stare you with that gaze and soon as he grow he could have a pretty girlfriend to take care of his needs
I was a late-bloomer and didn’t have older sisters.
When I was 12 I wasn’t in the least bit interested in women (yet!!!!).
I was a pro at annoying people though…
Isn’t he not just doing that stuff because he knows it gets you riled up?
I mean checking your sisters boobs is kinda weird if it’s for a sexual reason…
This feels like a fake account, if you check their profile they have 4 karma only, posts about a bike and getting a loan and no comments, the profile is from 2022, what’s more for the few days I saw more than 3 posts on this sub for small brothers going after their elders sisters at this point i can’t even tell if they are real or just bots, or some sick fetish thing, but this is starting to feel fake, like really fake, which is scary before I could tell it was fake now I am not certain
I think you should ask your bf to educate him. This is the age where he might be experiencing hormonal change and it should be rightly governed.
Younger boys get crushes, and sisters or mom is first experience of that. ( sorry, but it is his age) that doesn’t mean he can continue to be inappropriate. (Although staring because your chest was exposed really was also normal curiosity for that age—this is the age you also need to cover up more to prevent curious minds) These events are considered normal for age, yet this is the time we teach them the proper way to express themselves. Speak to him in a calm adult manner and explain what’s appropriate and what’s not. (Remember speak like you are a loving sister, not a tyrant ranting) Remind him that you love him and he’s growing up and needs to begin to learn proper behavior around women. Let him know he’s becoming a man (that should make him feel good) and that’s why he needs to understand. Speak when it’s not happening so you both are in a good state of mind for discussion. Don’t keep yelling, you don’t know how he can be Impacked in future interactions with women. Maybe he will consider all may reject him, which won’t be a good thing.
I think this is a rare instance that the advice could be to cover up around him.
Biological reality is a thing. But, TO MAKE THIS VERY CLEAR!, I am not blaming you in any way, or saying this applies to other situations.
He’s a young child starting puberty. An awful time from my experience.
this is literally my biggest fear bro i dont want my little brother to think of me like that
Is this subreddit just incest fetish?
Let him clap one time
I get it. But it’s true he’s just at that age. It’s unusual but in time he’ll change. He won’t be like that forever.
Once he grows up just slightly more he would look at your chest with disgust once he is little more mature. He is innocent right now. But definitely that’s bad behaviour that should be scolded.