So I just learned my lil sister (15yo) has a boyfriend (15-16yo), the first one that I’m aware of, I asked her directly ’cause I had my suspicions and she confirmed it, we’ve a good open relationship so we’re not that secretive to each other. From what I’ve gathered it’s nothing official, they’ve just been talking for a month now and she wants to bring him over next week when our parents are out, how should I act? Should I be defensive about it? Should I give her “the talk”? I don’t wanna tell my parents because that seems like a breach of confidentiality, I guess I should be cool about it, but it still kinda makes me uneasy, as I know very little about him and what intentions he may or may not have.
I’m a 21M btw.
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“Look, if you are going to fool around, use protection, and if this conversation emberasses you, your not ready, goodluck/have fun”
If your parents are dead, or ill equipped parents, due to drugs, alcohol, abuse or because they have proven to be absent at big life events.. yes, you should be involved. Have the talk and watch out for your sister.
If your parents are perfectly normal.. stay out. You are her brother, not her father . This is not your task.
Imagine you wanted to bring a girl over. What should her response to that be? Be cool. It’s none of your business.
Have a talk with her, also tell her you will be telling your parents and then tell your parents.
It’s not a breach if you tell her you will be letting them know. Their job is to parent their underage child.
I agree with the comments above… but I would still tell her that I wished she wouldn’t do it under such rushed and secretive circumstances. You’re not her father, but you would be her legal guardian, and I got uncles that’d sue their own son to teach them a lesson.
Bringing him over when your parents aren’t home is the bothersome part.