Hi! To preface, I have a question regarding whether I am overreacting, or just general advice on how to feel about what’s happening between us.
I have had a lot of emotional trauma from past relationships, whom I’ve moved on from, but still hold some of the scars from in certain things, words, that can jerk my memory and more or less send me into a panic.
My girlfriend went on a vacation to Japan with her family, and her family has forced her to go to an Onsen, (japanese hot spring), where it is cultural & customary to be fully naked while you bathe, in public. There is no privacy.
These hot springs ARE gender segregated, and I’m not concerned for her safety in any way. I trust her, I know nothing will happen. But I cannot help but feel EXTREMELY uncomfortable about that boundary being pushed, with or without her willing. Her family is more or less forcing her, she doesn’t *want* to do it. I feel sick thinking about the thought of her being exposed like that in public, even when that’s all it is going to be.
TLDR: Girlfriends family is forcing her to bathe in an Onsen, a Japanese Hot-spring where it is customary and culture-enforced to bathe naked in a public spot. I feel very uncomfortable about people seeing her unclothed.