So I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years. We have been in love since we met. He is smart, handsome, fun, kind, and loves me. I have bipolar disorder type 2, which for those who don’t know what that is a mental disorder where my mood cycles between hypomania and severe depression. I am on meds and managing but I do have some relapses here and there, most of them are depressive episodes, where I’d need emotional support. It becomes so hard for me to get out of bed, to study, to go to work and so on.
I get back to normal in a while,I know how to cope and I know how to lift myself up again. However, at these time I expect my bf to be there for me, but he is not. I know he has his own personal life,he has a job and school too, but I only expect him to gove me little call, or to go out with me when he has time and knows I am down. Sometimes it feels like he doesn’t care, like he doesn’t acknowledge the problem, or my feeling. When I tell him I feel sad, depressed and down, and would like it to go out when he has time, he ignores it, he deals as if nothing is there. Sometimes the complacency of this man justs drives me insane. I have told him a lot of times how this makes me feel, I have also told him to support me when I am down, but he does nothing, he acts like nothing is happening.
I know he does love me but he it feels like he doesn’t wanna put in a little effort to show it. Sometimes,It makes me think about leaving him, but I love too much to leave. Like Laufy says, it hurts to be something it’s worse to be nothing.
I am just ranting to tbh because I don’t know what to do. This is not the first time this has happened, and I don’t even wanna talk about with him anymore but at the same time I do love so much I don’t wanna leave. I’d appreciate any advice.
I don’t wanna come up as whiny or that I want him to give me attention 247,but it’d be nice to get some attention and affection every once when I need it the most
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Backup of the post’s body: So I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and half years. We have been in love since we met. He is smart, handsome, fun, kind, and loves me. I have bipolar disorder type 2, which for those who don’t know what that is a mental disorder where my mood cycles between hypomania and severe depression. I am on meds and managing but I do have some relapses here and there, most of them are depressive episodes, where I’d need emotional support. It becomes so hard for me to get out of bed, to study, to go to work and so on, and at these time I expect my bf to be there for me, but he is not. It’s like he doesn’t care, he doesn’t acknowledge the problem, or my feeling or his role in helping. Sometimes the complacency of this man justs drives me insane. I have told him a lot of times how this makes me feel, I have also told him to support me when I am down, but he does nothing, he acts like nothing is happening. It’s like he does love me but he doesn’t wanna put in the effort. It makes me think about leaving him, but I love too much to leave. Like Laufy says, it hurts to be something it’s worse to be nothing.
I am just ranting to tbh because I don’t know what to do. This is not the first time this has happened, and I don’t even wanna talk about with him anymore but at the same time I do love so much I don’t wanna leave. I’d appreciate any advice.
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Genuine question, are you emotionally dependent on everyone to get yourself back on your feet when you go through those relapses, or do you only cling to the expectation of him to pick you up then? Cause the thing is, not every creature is an emotional being and you can’t expect everyone to be at your beck and call. Learn to get yourself up by yourself, learn to be less dependent. Even if you break up and be single, when you relapse you gotta put the effort in yourself too.
Couple of things here, do y’all have a system to signal when you’re down in the dumps? Personally if my partner was just chilling out in bed all day I’d assume they’re just in a chill mood. Happens to everyone. What do you actually want him to do exactly? Are you saying hey I need a hug right now and he’s just ignoring you?