When we were children, I blinded ‘Jenna’ in one eye with a BB gun. Easily the worst, dumbest thing I have done.
She asked me out four months ago and I immediately said yes. Already had feelings for her . But last month, she talked to Mint(22f), a friend we grew up with. She told her that maybe I only said yes because I feel guilty and want to make up for what I did by looking after her.
I told Jenna that while I do still feel guilt over how I hurt her it’s not why I said yes when she asked me out. That I really do love and want to be with her. But she is still worried about it. I don’t know how to reassure her of my feelings.
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Is Mint jealous or what? Also, it’s actually so crazy how people, especially men, are taught so little about communication. Why don’t you ask her that yourself? Go tell Jenna that you love her but you don’t know how to reassure her, because what Mint said is straight up crazy and completely immature. It’s like, hella odd for someone to say something like that. Hope everything works out, OP, xx.
OP…actions speak louder than words. Stay true to your feelings for Jenna and leave that crazy Mint behind.
It makes sense that she’d have those doubts it’s a really heavy history to carry into a relationship. But the fact that she asked you out says something too. Keep showing her your love through actions, not just words. Be patient and consistent. Guilt may have been a part of your past, but love is what will shape your future together. It’ll take time for her to fully believe it, but if your feelings are real, she’ll feel it.
It sounds like you’re being really honest and open, which is so important. Reassuring her might take time, especially since there’s a painful history between you two. Keep showing her through your actions how much you care consistency, patience, and love go a long way. Maybe even having more conversations about your future together could help reinforce that you’re in this because you truly want to be.
Stop fucking her and if you don’t want to spend BF time with her. Bye bye!
You need to watch David Lynch’s Twin Peeks, this is literally a plot point for two characters.