i met my boyfriend in november of 2024. we met online and ended up meeting in person in january. in the beginning, he seemed really clingy and infatuated. over time and as our relationship grew, that behavior stopped. we aren’t super long distance and see each other regularly.
we were talking about our previous relationships and sometimes, when he talks about his ex, he talks about her in a way that makes me feel like he misses her/had more intense feelings for her from the get go.
when i asked about this, he says something along the lines of having matured and not becoming obsessive and letting romantic relationships take over his life/let them become all encompassing. i understand this but he’s also said before that he feels excited and intensely about me but it’s not every day. he’s offering me something more slow and stable and longterm.
he was with his ex before me for 2 years but i don’t think it was “stable” or “slow”
i’m not sure if i’m overreacting or if i’m right in thinking he just doesn’t like me very much? he tells me daily that he loves me and even recently paid for my moving truck which was over 1000 (i am paying him back but it was a nice gesture).
he seems invested in me and us but i feel like i’m not enough for him. i’m not sure what to do because when i talk to him about it, he tells me he’s committed and that i should trust him.
any thoughts or advice is appreciated.
tldr; i don’t think my boyfriend likes me as much as he says he does
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It’s possible that those feelings of “intensity” brought him a lot of pain when it ended and he’s scared to re create this so he’s trying a different approach with you which has the potential to be good or bad or both. I would look at his actions more than his words and how he treats you and not compare anything to an old relationship because that does no one good.
you guys are still fresh and imo a relationship that is intensive and slowly built up overtime will be %100 better than lovebomb season lol