CW Circumcision
I haven’t had contact with JNMIL in about in several weeks but I’m nervous about my next encounter at the last encounter we were all quiet in the living room just trying to enjoy the peace and quiet then out of nowhere she brings up circumcision? And then tries to tell us exactly what to do. This was so shocking to me as it seemed so deeply personal private and my partner and I haven’t even had a talk about circumcision yet!!! Then of course she tried to full on hug me. It’s been tough and I feel like I don’t have a personal/private life it’s as if she tries to intrude on so many aspects of my life it made me just go further and deeper into not wanting to have a relationship with her. Instead for hugging her good bye I used a double stroller to block my body so I didn’t have to hug her. I just know the time is coming to see her again and I just don’t want to. It’s been tough to process this all.
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The first question, of course, is if you have strong feelings about the procedure.
This was a conversation that I had with my husband before I delivered – and it turned out to be unnecessary because we had a girl. It’s also something that your OB should be informed about, as it’s usually performed in the first days after birth. (If there’s a religious aspect, the rabbi can do a symbolic pass with the bris at a post-surgical ceremony, regardless of how long it’s been.)
Have this conversation sooner, rather than later. Whatever your decision, any further comments from JNMIL should be met with ‘We’ve got everything under control.’ and change the subject completely. You don’t need to elaborate, and probably shouldn’t.
If you have opposite views from JNMIL, it would be wise not to ever let her do diaper duty or potty training.
Nobody has the right to invade your personal space like that yeesh! TBH, she needs to but out on topics like this, you guys got this! Reminds me of my overly enthusiastic Aunt May… Hang in there, dude! Don’t let anyone make you uncomfortable in your own life. I’d stick to that stroller shield tactic, lol. Stay strong! Remember it’s your family, your rules!
For this and other topics where she voice her opinion, “MIL that is a parental decision. If we are looking for advice or your opinion, we will ask for it. Non welcome opinions and pushy advice make us want to avoid spending time with you, and non of want that”