Throwaway account – So I (F33) have been dating a guy (33) for circa seven months and when we are together he is the most kind and physically affectionate man I have ever dated. We can spend weekends in our bubble, full of just cosy movies and hobbies. He will always just rest a hand gently on me, hold hands, cuddle, kiss on the forehead and naturally we sleep together. I will admit I think I have a higher sex drive than him but I came from past relationships where I was expected to deliver on a daily basis.
Where I am confused is that after all this time, despite how physically intimate and positive our time is together, when we have to go separate ways for work or whatever else, he just gives me a “Cool, catch you later” or “See ya” which normally carries an awkward silent pause before one of us then goes on their way. Nothing else.
I told him a month back that I felt ready to be saying things like “Love you, bye” when I leave or finish calling with him but he says he is not there yet. Is he just naturally a touchy feely person and I’m just a bit of fun on the weekends and nothing else?
I know people move at different speeds and process differently, but the stark change in mood between time together and then leaving time confuses me.
TLDR; dating a really lovely, physically affectionate guy but when it comes to having to leave or hang up the phone he sounds uninterested and I feel like I’m just a good time for the weekend.
Comments
I feel like 7 months is soon to be saying I love you? But that’s just me I guess. But maybe he feels the same way? I wouldn’t take it personally if all other boxes are checked. He might just need more time. It’s a heavy phrase for some.
What’s stopping him from saying it back? If he’s got reservations about proceeding with you in his life; there’s something there that needs to be addressed