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Backup of the post’s body: My fiance and I have been been planning on moving in together as soon as her dad moves back to our home country. He just told her he will do so in 3 months (tickets bought and all). My mom is going through a divorce and her and her soon-to-be-ex bought a house together around a year ago. She said she can’t afford the house by herself, but she really wants to keep the house, instead of renting/selling it. She has asked me to convince my fiance to move in with us for at least a year to help financially and to keep her company in this difficult situation, but we (fiance and I) had talked about this before and she wouldn’t feel comfortable living in my mom’s house, and I don’t blame her bc I didn’t either until her (ex) husband moved out. We are in our early 20s and at the same time I think it’s unfair for us to have to put the plans we’ve been making on hold for at least 1 year just because my mom wants to keep her house, I think it would be unfair to leave my mom to deal this whole situation by herself. I also think it’s unfair to let my fiance have to find a place for herself only, when we’ve been planing on moving in together for a long time, and now suddenly there’s a change of plans and she’ll have to figure it out a living situation by herself if I do stay with my mom.
I don’t want to live in this house anymore, and I was excited to finally move in together and start building a life together separate from our parents, but I’ll feel extremely guilty whether I stay with my mom or move in with my fiance. I honestly do not know what to do, and any advice would be appreciated.
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Backup of the post’s body: My fiance and I have been been planning on moving in together as soon as her dad moves back to our home country. He just told her he will do so in 3 months (tickets bought and all). My mom is going through a divorce and her and her soon-to-be-ex bought a house together around a year ago. She said she can’t afford the house by herself, but she really wants to keep the house, instead of renting/selling it. She has asked me to convince my fiance to move in with us for at least a year to help financially and to keep her company in this difficult situation, but we (fiance and I) had talked about this before and she wouldn’t feel comfortable living in my mom’s house, and I don’t blame her bc I didn’t either until her (ex) husband moved out. We are in our early 20s and at the same time I think it’s unfair for us to have to put the plans we’ve been making on hold for at least 1 year just because my mom wants to keep her house, I think it would be unfair to leave my mom to deal this whole situation by herself. I also think it’s unfair to let my fiance have to find a place for herself only, when we’ve been planing on moving in together for a long time, and now suddenly there’s a change of plans and she’ll have to figure it out a living situation by herself if I do stay with my mom.
I don’t want to live in this house anymore, and I was excited to finally move in together and start building a life together separate from our parents, but I’ll feel extremely guilty whether I stay with my mom or move in with my fiance. I honestly do not know what to do, and any advice would be appreciated.
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