Hey all. I’m a 29 year old woman. I have a neighbor who’s 53 years old. He’s married and has a 21 year old daughter. I live with my parents for the time being. We’ve gone over the neighbors house before for memorial day and we all know each other. His wife knows me and has met me. Long story short, they were invited to my grandmothers 90th birthday and they brought alcohol with them and the husband offered me some. To return the favor, I texted him and asked him if he would like some of the alcohol that I would be purchasing for everyone to for a Fourth of July cookout. I guess his wife saw the text message, and she wasn’t happy about it and kept asking the husband why I was offering him booze. He wasn’t honest with her and pretended like he didn’t know who’s number it was. There were a few times where the husband asked me not to come to work in leggings because he wouldn’t be able to take his eyes off me, and he showed me a picture of himself on his phone shirtless and when he was in better shape. I haven’t flirted with him or made any advances on him and I happen to have a boyfriend in my life who I’m happy with. That text was innocent to me and I felt I did nothing wrong. Any advice ?
Neighbors wife being unreasonable
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That dude is shady, and you’re getting caught in the crossfire. Protect your peace his wife’s anger isn’t about you, it’s about him being a walking red flag.
You didn’t do anything wrong. He should have been honest with his wife. If she happens to confront you, just tell her the truth and let her deal with her husband.
You could save any texts he sends so you have proof if sge needs it.
My favorite part about this conversation is it proves Wisdom doesn’t come with age lmfao.
Block him and dont talk to him alone
Um….married neighbor guy sending you shirtless photos and you text him asking if he wants some booze. I think you enjoy the attention and friction and the wife has a right to be upset with BOTH of you. If you know a married man and his wife, as a woman, always text the wife. And men, if you are friends with a married couple, always text the husband.
It’s common sense, shows transparency and respect, and at 29, you already know this.
You think it would be normal for your dad to text the neighbor’s 21 year old daughter?? Do you think we are all buying this??
I mean…
Yes, theoretically you did nothing wrong. Yes, the man is at fault. But knowing i will get downvoted for this, texting the man directly to offer him alcohol knowing he is married…i could see why the wife feels disrespected especially if they are older/old school.
ETA: My advice is to completely stay out of it, say hi/bye stay cordial but distant and let them figure out their own things
You are 29 and live with your parents? And text the old neighbor guy? Might be you hun
You’re not really entertaining his advances but you’re not 100% denying them as hard as you should. It’s giving you’re not interested but don’t mind the little extra attention.
Run from the drama…you didnt cause this etc. If it was asking for booze text it would have been some thing else….it was just when, where, and why and the why will be the same…he is a pig!
He’s creating drama because he wants to fuck you.
Btw I’m 29 years old and have never ever needed a neighbor nor their phone numbers. Dunno why you would need his or him needing yours.
All the guy needed to say was “oh we gave her booze on Memorial Day and she wanted to pay back the favor” yet he’s lying to his wife about you, talking about looking at your legs and body, and showing himself shirtless to you.
Like come on. People say that girls leave obscure hints that are easy to miss but this dude is all up in it with his actions and ur being blind needing Reddit. Idk if ur acting dumb on purpose or not.
You are 29 not 12. Do you not have experience with relationships or met a dude?
Btw if he pushes it off saying you are crazy or he’s being harmless and it’s nothing and he’s just being friendly he’s lying and you will be gullible to believe it. I’ll be nice and spoil that ending for you.
OP, it’s your male neighbor who’s being unreasonable, not his wife.
He hasn’t crossed any boundaries. Yet you are apprehensive. Just relax. The guy likes you that’s all.
You should probably just avoid him.
What you did is completely normal. We went to out neighbors for a BBQ, and killed an entire bottle of their whiskey. While my friends dad, who bought it was just fine with that, he only got one old fashioned from the whole bottle, since he is older and drinks more slowly than “the kids.”
I brough him a bottle of rye and bobrun the next day as a thank you. So, I find what you did to be completely normal an neighborly.
The dude next door made a friendly gesture into something weird.
If you talk to his wife, just say you were returning the favor, like a normal neighbor, and he made inappropriate comments. Let her deal with his ass.
Forget it. Don’t be friends with them anymore. They sound like they have some screws loose.
So in the past he has expressed interest in you and shown semi nude pictures to you and you still thought sending him a private text offering alcohol would be ok? That was not very smart. Stay away from him do not do it again.
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Your neighbours wife isn’t being unreasonable. Her husband wants to fuck you and is putting out feelers (not being able to take his eyes off of you in leggings, showing you photos of when he was younger/hotter, pretending he doesn’t know it’s you texting him) and you’re being deliberately obtuse in your responses to others because while you are innocent in your interactions, he isn’t. TELL THE WIFE you have no interest in him and apologize for any confusion. You’re 29. Stop expecting your hand to be held, throw on some big girl panties, and deal.
You did nothing wrong. He is being creepy…
Start calling him Mr. Soandso from now on when you see them and distance yourself. You’re being too familiar.
Please explain the leggings at work.
Are you seriously this dumb or are you playing dumb? are you wanting us to validate that the husband really really likes you?🙄
You listed obvious things he’s doing that show his interest in you.
Even most adolescent girls 10 years younger would know they’re playing with fire.
That makes absolutely no sense that he offered only you liquor so now you’re ONLY returning the favor. You could have asked your dad or mom for the wife’s number to text if it was that so important about having liquor… but you chose to text the wife’s husband.
GTFO