I’m working on trying to have more sex in my life because I have very little experience. Some of my worries are little physical things I can’t stop thinking about. Like what about vaginal discharge!? What if we are fooling around and I get naked and I have a blob of regular discharge that I didn’t know about? How is that handled?? What if I toot when I orgasm? These are things no one talks about and it’s making me so nervous to move forward.
Any tips for sex, safety with strangers, vaginal discharge… hit me!! Tia
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I used to feel the same way until I realized that once guys see a naked woman that they can actually touch, they couldn’t care less about the rest. Sex is great, but it’s just the nature of it that once in a while, something weird is going to happen. When it does, you can either pretend it didn’t happen or just laugh it off. Either way, don’t let it kill the mood. Just focus on having fun and enjoying yourself. I highly recommend that you get comfortable with sex with someone you trust whether it’s a boyfriend or a friend situation. That will help a lot with the awkwardness. But seriously, most guys couldn’t care less about the awkwardness and you’d be shocked out how many “gross” things are actually a turn on for some.
I use to worry about discharge often but in my experience, no one cares. Unless you find yourself a man with no knowledge about the female body, they wouldn’t think twice about it (men usually think it’s just the girl being “wet” lol). If you’re a bit on the heavier side with discharge you can always go to a bathroom before hand and have a quick wipe down there!!
Sex is a beautiful, awkward, fun thing but should never be uncomfortable. if you’re unsure on having sex at any certain time , especially with a stranger, then don’t do it! do it when you feel comfortable with yourself and others :))
If someone passes gas during sex, depending on the mood at the moment, you both either ignore it or both laugh about it.
When getting turned on, you should be getting wet down there, and any discharge is going to seem to be part of that wetness.
If you are feeling too nervous, then it probably isn’t a good time to have sex. Sex should only be with enthusiastic consent of both people involved. (And enthusiastic consent of all people involved when there’s more than two people involved).
If I can chime in as a dude, please know that we’re supremely happy to be near naked ladies. Like, incredibly happy.
As for discharge, until men get older, they don’t know what that is and will assume you’re wet and happy about it. Please do educate your local man, but it’s not a problem to him.
As for queefing, fanny farts are funny as long as you both embrace them. They always happen, usually at the worst times, but are part of being a human.
Don’t overthink it, you’ll learn how normal and droll it all is.
From the dude side, these kinds of concerns are pretty small fry, honestly.
Farts happen. They’re funny and sometimes they can shift the vibe away from sex, but that doesn’t always make them a negative thing. You can always reinitiate after the giggles are done.
As for discharge and stuff, there’s often going to be a little bit. Find you a guy and teach him a little about your body’s rhythms. I can’t speak for other dudes, but I was wary when I was ignorant, but now, it’s just a part of the process. With my fiancée, she was worried I wouldn’t want to touch her during shark week, but it’s kinda whatever. She’s going to menstruate. She’s also going to be weirdly horny during shark week. The solution was for me to learn to be okay with that, and our relationship is all the better for it.
If it’s a lot of discharge, use a pad. That’s what my fiancée does… she complains about bleaching her underwear otherwise.
I generally have a good amount of discharge when having sex, don’t most people? It means you’re aroused and it helps make sex feel good. No one wants a dry vagina during sex.