I don’t want my own kids, and my most recent ex-boyfriend had 2 of his own. I made my feelings clear up front, and we decided to try a relationship. I am 100% certain that is not what I want for my future.
It’s so hated and taboo that they hide it away and the secrecy of it all makes them obsessed and they completely skew their view on sexual attraction and healthy interaction and it is exhausting and damaging to mental health.
befriend insecure people. i’m sorry but i can’t keep hyping you up if you’re going to keep putting yourself down. also a friendship based on venting and dumping is not a friendship, you’re just sapping my energy with no reciprocation.
Never will I ever go back to an ex just because I miss the feeling. Why? Because the second we talked, I remembered exactly why it ended and it wasn’t just “bad timing.”
The last argument I had with my ex, he avoided me for 5 days and then after those 5 days he called me and broke up with me. We had other arguments in the past where he wouldn’t contact me for 24 hours and all of this was very emotionally draining. I had no choice but to go to bed feeling angry and sad. Never again!!!
Flash for free drinks. Everyone there decided i was ready to dish myself out or whatever and I had to leave the bar in about 20 minutes after the flashing cus I prolly would’ve ended up in the news the next day
Be friends with a woman who’s not a girls girl. Dumped a close friend of two years yesterday cause she chose a guy’s side when he is the one that sexually took advantage of me. Also, ditched me at my birthday event to hang out with him
Take hormonal birth control. I’m convinced that’s why I was bat shit crazy for like 5 years. Once I switched to non hormonal, I was a normal functioning person again.
date a guy who only pays the minimum on his credit card every month. I don’t want to date someone who is in financial distress and I also don’t want to date someone who isn’t in financial distress and is just paying interest for funsies
ill never compete in another bikini contest again. especially will not get black out drunk and compete in another bikini contest. its happened twice, no i didnt learn after the first one. nothing bad happened, im just an idiot and shook my ass a lot.
Never will I ever lower my standards again. Every time I have been told “you will not find the perfect, you should compromise a little on what you want”, I ended up being taken advantage of or hurt, or both. Lowering standards means other person now feels they are entitled to much more because someone like you chose them. Wow! Never again.
Wait until marriage to have sex. I discovered that we really weren’t sexually compatible (although it took me many years to realize this). I never want to get that far into a relationship without testing all manner of compatibility.
Never will I ever use any IUD again. Tried both hormonal and non-hormonal and both had adverse effects. The hormonal one made me bleed a lot even past the acclimation period of about 3 months and I had to go make sure I didn’t need a blood transfusion. Thankfully I didn’t need one! Tried the hormonal one and I kept getting UTIs, my vagina smelled fishy. I had excessive discharge that would make me feel like I was wetting myself, and always needed to wear a pad. I couldn’t have Oral sex and taking pH balancing suppositories (in the vagina btw) didn’t do anything. I kept getting tested for yeast infections and supposedly only had a yeast infection once. Within a few days of getting the IUD out, my vagina went back to normal. I have friends that have tried both and liked them. Most of them have non-hormonal IUDs, so they work for some people well.
Use an over the counter internal treatment for a yeast infection…I tried it once about 15 years ago and omg it was horrible! Severe burning and pain immediately after using. I tried for such a long time in the middle of the night to somehow make it better and eventually resorted to falling asleep while holding ice down there. Never again. Will always just head to the doctor
Go on an amusement park ride. Used to love them. Now they make me instantly sick no matter how mild. Sad but true. I can’t even go on kids swings anymore. Also small boats.
Everytime I did that she would either broadcast my secret it to her friends or tell me I should’ve just lived with my father and always make it negative.
Go zip lining. Such an out of control feeling. Plus standing on a tiny platform 60 feet in the air waiting to step off is frightening. I rather go swimming with sharks.
Get a pixie cut again. I got one at 19… hated it. I socially isolated myself cause I didn’t like it… plus I was in a new city far from home. Didn’t make any friends at all that year.
It wasn’t the pixies fault… just that it separated me from who I felt I was.
Try to be friends with a guy again. I’ve had bad luck with trying to keep guy friends because they’d treat me different/get cold, get grosser toward me, or ghost me completely when they realize I’m loyal and committed to my partner. Only guys I’ve been able to be friends with that feels normal are my boyfriend’s friends he’s introduced me to or that we’ve met together.
Have another kid again. I love my child and our family is complete. I do not want to ever change another diaper or lose hours of sleep to take care of a newborn.
Let anyone borrow money from me. I watched this person constantly buy new clothes and had $0 to put towards the loan I gave them. After 6 months of begging for some type of payment, I made them take out a loan at a bank to pay me back. I don’t ever want to be in a situation where I’m begging for my money back when I’m doing them a favor and they have no urgency to put the loan before their personal pleasure
Never will I ever have meaningless casual sex again. Sex is fun for me because it’s meaningful, because it’s not casual and I can show the other person how totally and irreparably in love I am with them and their body. Casual sex doesnt feel empowering to me, it feels like I’m degrading myself to get the stamp of approval from others
Marry someone who isn’t my equal, and that I have to take care of while also dimming my light. Because I wasted almost 14yrs of my life, and I’ll never get those years back.
Ignore my gut instincts. Tried so hard to be genuine friends with someone, the entire time my gut was telling me “not to or don’t trust them” & that friendship just plummeted not that long ago. Never again will I make that mistake, I will listen to & follow my gut from here on out! This also falls under the “When you get a bad vibe from someone” like they don’t have good or true intentions.
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Date a man with kids.
I don’t want my own kids, and my most recent ex-boyfriend had 2 of his own. I made my feelings clear up front, and we decided to try a relationship. I am 100% certain that is not what I want for my future.
Never will I ever go grocery shopping when I’m hungry again. Spent way too much on snacks I didn’t even want later.
Haven’t gotten drunk in 9 years because my first time being drunk was so awful- I never wanted to go thru that again.
I’m a 1 beer type of person. Some ppl see that as lame but I have no filter when I drink too much and I get flirty with anyone/ everyone
Use dating apps. It was an awful, anxiety -producing experience.
Date a guy with a foot thing.
It’s so hated and taboo that they hide it away and the secrecy of it all makes them obsessed and they completely skew their view on sexual attraction and healthy interaction and it is exhausting and damaging to mental health.
Stay in a relationship where I am unhappy and unfulfilled
befriend insecure people. i’m sorry but i can’t keep hyping you up if you’re going to keep putting yourself down. also a friendship based on venting and dumping is not a friendship, you’re just sapping my energy with no reciprocation.
Dim my light for someone else
Drink alcohol again because I’ve regret some choices I’ve made when drunk.
Never will I ever go back to an ex just because I miss the feeling. Why? Because the second we talked, I remembered exactly why it ended and it wasn’t just “bad timing.”
Date avoidant men.
The last argument I had with my ex, he avoided me for 5 days and then after those 5 days he called me and broke up with me. We had other arguments in the past where he wouldn’t contact me for 24 hours and all of this was very emotionally draining. I had no choice but to go to bed feeling angry and sad. Never again!!!
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Flash for free drinks. Everyone there decided i was ready to dish myself out or whatever and I had to leave the bar in about 20 minutes after the flashing cus I prolly would’ve ended up in the news the next day
Be friends with a woman who’s not a girls girl. Dumped a close friend of two years yesterday cause she chose a guy’s side when he is the one that sexually took advantage of me. Also, ditched me at my birthday event to hang out with him
Take hormonal birth control. I’m convinced that’s why I was bat shit crazy for like 5 years. Once I switched to non hormonal, I was a normal functioning person again.
Never say never again.
Not trust my guts
date a guy who only pays the minimum on his credit card every month. I don’t want to date someone who is in financial distress and I also don’t want to date someone who isn’t in financial distress and is just paying interest for funsies
ill never compete in another bikini contest again. especially will not get black out drunk and compete in another bikini contest. its happened twice, no i didnt learn after the first one. nothing bad happened, im just an idiot and shook my ass a lot.
Let “friends” treat me like shit and me accept it
Never will I ever lower my standards again. Every time I have been told “you will not find the perfect, you should compromise a little on what you want”, I ended up being taken advantage of or hurt, or both. Lowering standards means other person now feels they are entitled to much more because someone like you chose them. Wow! Never again.
Wait until marriage to have sex. I discovered that we really weren’t sexually compatible (although it took me many years to realize this). I never want to get that far into a relationship without testing all manner of compatibility.
Never will I ever use any IUD again. Tried both hormonal and non-hormonal and both had adverse effects. The hormonal one made me bleed a lot even past the acclimation period of about 3 months and I had to go make sure I didn’t need a blood transfusion. Thankfully I didn’t need one! Tried the hormonal one and I kept getting UTIs, my vagina smelled fishy. I had excessive discharge that would make me feel like I was wetting myself, and always needed to wear a pad. I couldn’t have Oral sex and taking pH balancing suppositories (in the vagina btw) didn’t do anything. I kept getting tested for yeast infections and supposedly only had a yeast infection once. Within a few days of getting the IUD out, my vagina went back to normal. I have friends that have tried both and liked them. Most of them have non-hormonal IUDs, so they work for some people well.
Give people access to me after they’ve shown who they are and their true intentions the first time! We one and done over here now baby 🙂↔️
Never will I ever buy pads and tampons again.
I had a hysterectomy in 2022.
Date a bisexual man
Use an over the counter internal treatment for a yeast infection…I tried it once about 15 years ago and omg it was horrible! Severe burning and pain immediately after using. I tried for such a long time in the middle of the night to somehow make it better and eventually resorted to falling asleep while holding ice down there. Never again. Will always just head to the doctor
Have petty arguments with my parents again. We are all getting too old and I don’t want to ever regret my last conversation with them
Go on an amusement park ride. Used to love them. Now they make me instantly sick no matter how mild. Sad but true. I can’t even go on kids swings anymore. Also small boats.
Go skydiving. I’m so happy I did it but once was enough.
Trust my mother
Everytime I did that she would either broadcast my secret it to her friends or tell me I should’ve just lived with my father and always make it negative.
Get married
Live with anyone
Feel I need to ask permission to do anything
Why? Because all my life has been taking care of others. It’s time for me, for a change.
Keep putting things I need to get done away, especially those that will cost me later
Get married. The fuck was the point of that?
Go zip lining. Such an out of control feeling. Plus standing on a tiny platform 60 feet in the air waiting to step off is frightening. I rather go swimming with sharks.
Not be up front about what I want in a relationship
Be my next partners mother. Grown man or nothing.
Stay in a job where I’m disrespected or bullied again
Get a pixie cut again. I got one at 19… hated it. I socially isolated myself cause I didn’t like it… plus I was in a new city far from home. Didn’t make any friends at all that year.
It wasn’t the pixies fault… just that it separated me from who I felt I was.
Try to be friends with a guy again. I’ve had bad luck with trying to keep guy friends because they’d treat me different/get cold, get grosser toward me, or ghost me completely when they realize I’m loyal and committed to my partner. Only guys I’ve been able to be friends with that feels normal are my boyfriend’s friends he’s introduced me to or that we’ve met together.
Have another kid again. I love my child and our family is complete. I do not want to ever change another diaper or lose hours of sleep to take care of a newborn.
Let anyone borrow money from me. I watched this person constantly buy new clothes and had $0 to put towards the loan I gave them. After 6 months of begging for some type of payment, I made them take out a loan at a bank to pay me back. I don’t ever want to be in a situation where I’m begging for my money back when I’m doing them a favor and they have no urgency to put the loan before their personal pleasure
Never will I ever have meaningless casual sex again. Sex is fun for me because it’s meaningful, because it’s not casual and I can show the other person how totally and irreparably in love I am with them and their body. Casual sex doesnt feel empowering to me, it feels like I’m degrading myself to get the stamp of approval from others
Never will I ever get on a dating app again. I just can’t, it’s too much.
Feel the need to tell the person who hurt me, that they’ve hurt me.
drink AMFs
I will never allow someone to put their hands on me again. Not without consequences.
Stop taking care of myself mentally or physically. It didn’t get too bad tbh but it one bad decision led to another.
Ex: starting choosing the wrong men who gave me attention bc I felt insecure about the small weight I gained
Marry someone who isn’t my equal, and that I have to take care of while also dimming my light. Because I wasted almost 14yrs of my life, and I’ll never get those years back.
Bleach my hair. I’m naturally very dark and my hair snapped off at the root 🥲
Listen to all male advice ppodcasts
Trust a man.
Be with an alchoholic again. Was traumatic.
Date…i like the thought of relationships but not the reality.
Never will i ever
Think to cook after i come home from my judo class.
I always end up getting takeaway anyways.
Wow , compared to the other comments, mine seems simple.
Read my book backwards.
Ignore my gut instincts. Tried so hard to be genuine friends with someone, the entire time my gut was telling me “not to or don’t trust them” & that friendship just plummeted not that long ago. Never again will I make that mistake, I will listen to & follow my gut from here on out! This also falls under the “When you get a bad vibe from someone” like they don’t have good or true intentions.
Answer drunk om dating sites
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And the list can goes on… But hey… Never say never, so… 🤷🏻♀️
underwent another septoplasty and turbinoplasty. Great outcome but the healing is AWFUL
Not standing up for my self!